The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:39 AM on Friday, December 8th, 2023
He’s giving you large sums of money to BUY YOUR SILENCE!!!
I hope you see that.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 1:17 PM on Friday, December 8th, 2023
Again..no one would know if he was being investigated. Which you said he was terrified of. Unless he told them. No one would know the police were doing a deep dive into his phone and computer. No one would know they were running his fingerprints,and DNA.
Yet, he's terrified.
Common sense says it's because he has committed a crime.
If he has raped someone..if he has CP on his devices..or done whatever it is he's terrified will be discovered, are you comfortable helping him hide it?
But you are what you did
And I'll forget you, but I'll never forgive
The smallest man who ever lived..
BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 1:56 PM on Friday, December 8th, 2023
What do you think would be easier to live with? Your pervert soon-to-be-ex killing himself or serious harm being inflicted on you and/or your daughter?
Do really want to lie awake at night replaying the moment you said "I do love my daughter more than him of course but I need to weigh up the risk of harm to us which is think is very very sad unlikely..." over and over in your head?
If your STBX is threatening suicide if you go to the cops, it's most likely because he's committed criminal offenses that, if discovered, would lead to public humiliation and prison time.
[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 2:00 PM, Friday, December 8th]
BW, 40s
Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried
I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.
kiwilee ( member #10426) posted at 5:47 AM on Thursday, December 21st, 2023
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 11:43 PM on Thursday, December 28th, 2023
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 1:47 AM on Tuesday, July 16th, 2024
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
annb ( member #22386) posted at 4:19 PM on Thursday, July 18th, 2024
Please check in! Sending a virtual hug.....
HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 7:47 PM on Thursday, July 18th, 2024
I truly fear for your safety. Please check in.
But you are what you did
And I'll forget you, but I'll never forgive
The smallest man who ever lived..
