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I was talking to my former SIL and during the conversation, it came up that presently, I have now been divorced slightly longer than I was married.
We don't usually talk about our exes (they were brothers, hence why she's SIL). We had a good laugh because we often joke that we divorced them but not each other.
Had me thinking, ex really is just "someone I used to know" these days. I've forgotten often over the past few years both my former anniversary and divorce dates because that part of my life has been over for a long time.
Just goes to show, time does heal. I couldn't even imagine dealing with someone like ex now. There was i time I thought I was broken and would never recover. Let's toast to healing! Cheers!
Maybe this should have gone in General or D/S, mods rectify please if I posted in the wrong place.

Thanks for sharing this positive message. I'm happy for you, and your story gives me hope that I'll find the same peace and healing that you have.

Since I'm in the midst of divorcing my WH after 2+ decades, I'm not sure the math works for me to divorced longer than I was married, but good genes and old age run in my family, so here's to hoping!

Thanks for the great post! I am so glad that you still consider her your SIL.

I second your toast to healing. Cheers!

Cheers to healing!

Always feels encouraging when people drop back in with encouragement.

Always good to know how things work out for people.

Glad to see happiness and positivity in your life.

Man, I was a hot mess when I found SI. I thought I'd never be the same steong woman i was before the shit hit the fan. I hadn't dealt with a lot of childhood trauma and didn't even have a clue how that could mess with my head. I had to start with dealing with that first.
When you get knocked down hard, it's difficult to imagine ever getting back up and thriving again.
But I can attest to the fact that if you take the time to properly deal with the trauma of adultery and divorcing a fuckwit, as well as any past unaddressed trauma if you had it, you can be whole. You can even be a better version of yourself than you were before.
I rarely think of ex now. The first year I had horrible nightmares of him. Different scenarios, but him. The second year, the dreams wernt as often and not as bad. Nightmares were much more rare. Now, I can't even remember the last time I dreamed about him. Maybe a year ago and he was only in the dream as more of an afterthought than the main character.
I went back for a new degree. This time in Nutritional Science. A completely different field than before. I never would have done this if I were still with the ex. I would have been too caught up in doing what made him happiest. I'm healthier. I was looking OLD on DDay. Now, I look over a decade younger. I'm about to turn 55 and have no wrinkles now. I lost weight, but then menopause. LOL. But I'm happy. I'm much healthier. I don't walk on eggshells. I learned so much about myself. When I look in the mirror, I genuinely like myself and am proud of the strong woman staring back at me.
I wouldn't even recognize the old me if I walked past her on the streets.
Anyone can make this journey. They just have to want to heal and be willing to do the work.
My only regret is not divorcing him sooner.

What a great update! So glad to hear you are absolutely killing it in your new, better life!