Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 2:16 AM on Thursday, November 27th, 2025
For those who celebrate the holiday, happy Thanksgiving Eve.
What are you thankful for?
Me, I am thankful for the people in this group. For friends. Family. The time I am able to spend with F before his heart surgery related to his military service that is scheduled the end of the year (no matter how single digit it is going to be where we are while waiting).
Wishing everyone much peace and happiness this holiday season.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:54 PM on Thursday, November 27th, 2025
Tough week for me. Lost a suitcase. Need new clothes and actually found some that fit, but I can't get more until tomorrow at the earliest. Spending the week sith son and GS, and it sounds like our GS is attacking our son the same way his mother attacked our son. Meanwhile, our son is not blameless, but he has refrained for not dumping his complaints against exW on his son, but he is very unhappy with the unfairness of the attacks.
And yet ... I'm happy to be alive. I'm grateful for my son and GS, for our GS's sense of humor, intelligence, and discipline, for his interest in the world, for his being a pretty standard teenager. I'm grateful I can buy new clothes, though I don't see replacing the suitcase with the same quality - what I need at 80 is very different from what I needed as a road warrior 30+ years ago.
I'm grateful for my ability to drive 2000 miles and pedal over 1,000 on my bike. I'm grateful for being with my W.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 3:13 AM on Friday, November 28th, 2025
Sorry about the suitcase Sisoon. I am hoping that your "lost" suitcase somehow finds its way back to you! I can’t even imagine.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 12:43 PM on Tuesday, December 2nd, 2025
My D was after 34 years of M, and it's been a shift to be single. That being said, I've been finding joy in doing new things.
I've found that I don't have the family I thought I'd have. I have a different family that I know likes or loves me because they've told me. Not what I expected at this age, but so appreciated.
Love that my relationship with my DSs are much closer. So proud of them.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 2:09 PM on Thursday, December 4th, 2025
I was so happy to have all of my boys with me on Thanksgiving. My oldest is in his 2nd year of college so we don't see him as much. I wasn't thrilled that we spent the day with MIL, but there was no drama so that was good.
Finding new things to be grateful for as relationships change. Miss those I thought were my friends and family who never put forth effort on their side. But learning to embrace what I do have. 
Failure is success if we learn from it.
