Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 9:49 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2024
I am so sorry to read this. I thankful he did and is doing the work. Nothing can prepare us for a tragedy but it helps to have a united front.
Is it wrong to be thankful my H grew and changed before this horrific event? Am I happy he cheated ? No. Do I think all things happen for a reason? Yes.
I said last week on your other thread, my W and I were so thankful we did the work before we knew the storm we were headed towards. I pray that y’all draw close and extend each other some grace and mercy. I’m so sorry to hear this and please update us.
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 32 years
Webbit ( member #84517) posted at 9:53 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2024
Oh Groot I am so so sorry to hear this terrible news. Life really is a bitch sometimes. Your son is ever so lucky to have such a wonderful mum as you.
Sending virtual hugs 💚
WB1340 ( member #85086) posted at 10:32 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2024
I will keep you and your son in my thoughts.
D-day April 4th 2024. WW was sexting with a married male coworker. Started R a week later, still ongoing...
waitedwaytoolong ( member #51519) posted at 11:12 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2024
So sorry. Huge strides in prosthetics but still awful. Heart breaks for you
I am the cliched husband whose wife had an affair with the electrician
Divorced
PinkBerry ( new member #85144) posted at 12:50 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
Oh Groot, so sorry this has happened to your son. 
Sending you all warm and healing thoughts. xxx
BoundaryBuilder ( member #78439) posted at 2:51 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
So sorry this horrible accident happened to your son. Life can be so darn cruel. My thoughts are with you, with son and with the family. And so sorry that--- as H said, there are now two life altering traumas to grapple with. The family (especially son) needs you - triaging EMDR to focus on immediate trauma around the accident is wise. H's remorse and ongoing work will also be so important to help navigate this tragedy. Hope you and H continue be a united team, and may the family find peace, healing and STRENGTH dear Groot.
[This message edited by BoundaryBuilder at 10:09 PM, Tuesday, October 29th]
Married 34 years w/one adult daughter
ME:BW
HIM: 13 month texting EA with high school X who fished him on Facebook 43 years later
PA=15 days spread over final 3 months
D-Day=April 21, 2018
Reconciled
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 3:09 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
I am so very sorry. Sending ((virtual hugs)) and prayers.
I can not even begin to imagine what you are going through.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Tobster1911 ( member #81191) posted at 4:01 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
For what it’s worth from an internet stranger, I am sorry you are going through this. I do really appreciate the sentiment of unfortunately being glad these did not overlap more. And being in a different place now than the very fragile place I was closer to DDay. I hope the strength you have found in yourself over this time can be your rock now. You are strong enough…
BH(45), married 16yrs, DDay1 Feb 2022, DDay2 Apr 2022, 2EA + 4PA over 6+ yrs.
Glimmers of hope for change
Panopticon72 ( member #85106) posted at 6:31 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
Sending you hugs. This is so terrible for you. You are in my thoughts.
Phosphorescent ( new member #84111) posted at 12:01 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
Groot I came to SI after some weeks away and I saw this... I send to you my most affectionate thoughts, the warmth of them for your baby and you (both you and your H).
user4578 ( member #84572) posted at 12:09 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
Groot, I have no words. I’m so sorry. This has made me so sad to read.
Sending so much love and strength to you and your whole family.
Ozzy1788 ( member #83108) posted at 12:55 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
So sorry to read this Groot. Wishing you and your family the best at this incredibly tough time 
Notsogreatexpectations ( new member #85289) posted at 1:07 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
Groot, I’m not the praying kind anymore. I quit praying when it seemed like no one was listening. But for you, your son, and your son’s father, I will give it another go. I pray that you all discover a pool of strength that you may not have realized was inside of you.
Lemonpie ( member #84129) posted at 6:14 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
Really sorry to hear this. Sending you prayers and hugs at this time x
LittleRedRobin23 ( member #84806) posted at 7:34 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2024
Groot I’m so sorry to read this devastating news! You are so strong. My thoughts are with you all!! Sending so much love and strength to your little boy x
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