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 zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 9:57 PM on Tuesday, November 21st, 2023

My sweet baby boy left us today. crying

He had gained some weight and was acting more and more like himself.

He went very quickly, in our home with no warning. The last thing he saw was me.

My eyes are swollen and my heart is in a million pieces. He was the sweetest dog I have ever known and everyone who met him loved him. He was only fifteen pounds but had a huge personality and was incredibly smart.

I take some comfort that he passed quickly with no pain and in his home with the people he loved. He gave us ten beautiful years.

RIP sweet baby boy. crying

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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Superesse ( member #60731) posted at 10:08 PM on Tuesday, November 21st, 2023

((((zebra)))) Your heart is heavy and you have such a big heart. Please know I understand so well. Lost my ❤️🐕‍🦺 last Thanksgiving Day morning on the day he loved the best of the whole year; like your baby, he'd been the bright spot in our lives for over a decade.

No words I can say to take away the pain, except maybe for you to keep saying "10 beautiful years?" What a gift such dogs are.

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MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 11:31 PM on Tuesday, November 21st, 2023

I’m so sorry about your dog zebra. Near thanksgiving too. They really are the best and most pure little creatures.

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 12:28 AM on Wednesday, November 22nd, 2023

I'm so, so sorry. Losing a pet is devastating, my heart is broken for you. crying

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Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 5:12 AM on Wednesday, November 22nd, 2023

Every time one of us loses a fur baby here, I cry along with you. (((((( ZEBRA ))))) The pain of losing these babies is just horrible and leaves such a huge void in our lives. It seems nothing can take their place.

Thinking of you. Your sweet boy was met at the Rainbow bridge by Whatsright's Maggie and My Otis. Thin of him as healthy and running and playing - and waiting for you.

"Because I deserve better"

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 zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 12:55 PM on Wednesday, November 22nd, 2023

Thank you all so much for your beautiful messages. It helps hearing from you all who understand.

My H feels the loss as deeply as I do and has been a great comfort. Thankfully he happened to be taking his lunch break when it happened. I had just taken our sweet boy outside and was feeding him his lunch. He stopped eating, looked at me and fell to the floor. It was that fast. I am embarrassed to say I fell to the ground sobbing uncontrollably while my H checked for a heartbeat.

He had been sick but seemed to be doing much better and had gotten a good report from the vet. We were not expecting this. I have been fortunate to never have experienced losing a dog before their teen years. This one is hitting a little extra hard. They are all special but he was a little extra. ❤

I'm trying to focus on what was best for him and not me. He died so fast, without pain or a long decline. He was happy and so very loved and treasured. He was a beautiful Boston Terrier with a kind soul and a playful spirit. He loved to take naps in the sun and play with his toys and greet our guests. He was an amazingly gentle and kind big brother to our rescue who is going to be lost without him. crying

Today we will bury him under a big beautiful pine tree. crying crying crying

Thank you for listening. It helps to write it out. Thank you for crying with me.

I'm sure he will love Maggie and Otis.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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Superesse ( member #60731) posted at 1:44 PM on Wednesday, November 22nd, 2023

zebra, could you please make a little room for me to be there by your side as you perform this last honor for your baby? I have some little white and some little pink roses and a spring of baby's breath I can bring.

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 zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 2:49 PM on Wednesday, November 22nd, 2023

Superesse, ❤ crying crying crying

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 4:37 PM on Wednesday, November 22nd, 2023

Oh I'm so sorry for your loss. It's truely heartbreaking and so hard not to cry reading.

Hugs.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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 zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 6:08 PM on Wednesday, November 22nd, 2023

Thank you Dragn. I really appreciate you thinking of me and taking the time to post with all you are dealing with.

I wish we could all meet for coffee/tea and share stories about our beloved pets. You all are helping to lift me up. I am very grateful.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 7:01 PM on Wednesday, November 22nd, 2023

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

"Because I deserve better"

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 zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 8:55 PM on Wednesday, November 22nd, 2023

Jeanie ❤ crying

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 12:20 AM on Thursday, November 23rd, 2023

Jeanie that's beautiful and actually kinda scary.

With all the pets I've loved and lost I'll have quite a welcoming.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:24 AM on Thursday, November 23rd, 2023

I am so so sorry. Losing your furry family. Member is just the hardest thing. Sending deepest condolences and hoping that you find some peace in his happiness in All the years he was with you.

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:25 PM on Thursday, November 23rd, 2023

(((Zeb))))
So sorry for your loss. I know it how badly it hurts. Feel the feels and remember your baby with love and honor.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 1:58 PM on Thursday, November 23rd, 2023

Oh my gosh. 😩😩😩

I’m not sure what the description is for the above emoji, but in my mind it is "anguish". I know it is what all of us feel when we lose those four-legged "loves of our lives.

I wish so badly that I had words of wisdom for you. But having experienced this same loss recently, I’m still in "heartbreak limbo". But you are so right, you were so blessed to have had your baby’s passing be so quick. I’m so sorry that you had to see it happen, but there is also a special comfort in having been with them at that time. And don’t for one second be embarrassed about hitting the floor with your grief.

I’m so very happy for you that your husband is right there with you in your grief.

Go easy on yourself as you grieve. Don’t expect it to be over too very fast.

I’m not sure how well this would work for other people, but the way that I "grieve" is to saturate myself with my memories rather than trying to avoid them. I think of my Maggie dozens of times every day. When I stretch my legs out to the side on our couch so that she would have room in the corner of the couch. When I let the pups outside and she’s not with him. When I come home from grocery shopping and the den is not a total mess where she has had separation anxiety. Etc. etc. etc. Although those memories are bittersweet, they bring me comfort. Maybe they could do the same for you.

Jeanie, of course, offers the best comfort ever.

Please keep posting as you need to. As you can see, there are many of us here "with you" in spirit.

[This message edited by WhatsRight at 2:00 PM, Thursday, November 23rd]

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 12:03 AM on Friday, November 24th, 2023

((Zebra))

So sorry for your loss.

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 12:00 AM on Saturday, November 25th, 2023

Love to you zebra. I miss all my little ones. It's very hard.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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 zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 1:08 PM on Saturday, November 25th, 2023

Thank you all for your heartfelt posts.

I feel bad posting about this while others are losing parents and siblings or experiencing a Dday.

When we let a fur baby into our hearts we know this day will come. I have gone through this before but for some reason this time is hitting so much harder. Zebra dog was the heartbeat of our home. We got him ten and a half years ago when we lost another special friend. He helped distract me from the pain and smile again.

He loved to play and had an overflowing box of toys. He would come up behind us with a toy or ball and bop us in the leg and then stand there looking up at us wagging his little bum. He also loved to nap in the sunshine. He would stand in the patches of sun in the house waiting for me to move his bed for him. I can't look at those spots without tears. If I was outside he would be at the front or back door with his lips and nose smushed into the glass. My glass doors were never clean. He loved to ride on the Jonh Deere. I gave him his last ride a few days ago.

Five years ago we adopted a rescue. He came to us very timid and scared not really knowing how to be a dog. He bonded with Zebra dog and learned to be happy and great people when they came in the door instead of hiding in his crate. He played with toys and played in the sun and would snuggle in the bed with Zebra dog. The first thing he would do every morning is find Zebra dog.

Our little rescue appears to be as lost as we are. He is not himself. He does not come downstairs in the morning with excitement. He is not eating (unless he is with my daughters dogs) he is not saying in his usual spots letting us know if someone is going for a walk or there is a chicken in the yard. We left him alone one time and had a camera on him. He barked and cried which he did not do when he was home with his buddy. I've never had two dogs this bonded before and I don't know how to help him. The only thing that perks him up is being with my DD's dogs.

If you have any suggestions for my rescue I would appreciate that.

Thank you for being here with me. WR I will hang out in "heartbreak limbo" with you if that's alright.

Goodbye is the hardest part. 💔💔💔

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:12 PM on Saturday, November 25th, 2023

My soon to be 5yo lan was a bit lost when my old girl passed in September. He was definitely more clingy, he is usually pretty independent and spends all of his mornings in our bed or on the couch but he was hanging with me for a few weeks.
When the puppy came home it helped. I'm not saying get another dog, but having someone to play with definitely got him back on track. Plus my old girl was sick for a good while and he seemed to understand that.

But I would make sure he is getting plenty of love gong for walks as they bond when they walk with their people. Playtime with the granddogs and time.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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