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10 Years After Dday -- Divorce Papers Served

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gr8ful ( member #58180) posted at 12:16 AM on Tuesday, October 3rd, 2023

It sounds like you are RC and only what the RCC says matters, yet I would remind you that Jesus explicitly condoned divorce over adultery.

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Nexther ( new member #83430) posted at 2:12 AM on Tuesday, October 3rd, 2023

Jesus explicitly condoned divorce over adultery.


This is the most mistaken Biblical concept here. It’s not that difficult to understand the difference between fornication and adultery.

Please read Matthew 5:32 again.

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BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 1:31 AM on Wednesday, October 4th, 2023

I’m Catholic and was able to get an annulment on the basis that my husband deceived me into marriage; ie, there was sufficient evidence to show that he never had any intention of fulfilling his vows. Believe it or not, the adultery was just part of it.

The process was long and arduous, but it was worth it. I was in my early 30s and didn’t have kids; I’m glad I didn’t have to wait for my ex to die before I could have a second chance to have a really marriage and family.


We have not told our children yet. I have asked her to inform the children of her intent to divorce me. She has not yet, and I'm thinking she may have second thoughts.

I think it’s fair to assume that your wife thinks that you will carry water for her the way you always have. Her usual MO is to drop a bomb on your family and then have you deal with the fallout with the kids.

Are you sure she doesn’t have another man in the picture?

[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 1:36 AM, Wednesday, October 4th]

BW, 40s

Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried

I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.

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gr8ful ( member #58180) posted at 5:06 AM on Wednesday, October 4th, 2023

Please read Matthew 5:32 again.

At the risk of a ban-hammer, Jesus explicitly references "porneia" in this verse, which is translated "sexual immorality", which is ANY sexual activity with someone other than one’s spouse, is Biblical grounds for divorce. If you mean to say the standard is far less than actual intercourse, then yes, I fully agree with you.

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:02 PM on Wednesday, October 4th, 2023

Arguing about the meaning of verses in the Bible is too close to arguing about religion.


The fact is: there IS a lot of argument about verses in the Bible, and there's lots of variation in practices. Deal with it, but not on SI.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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