Topic is Sleeping.
JaelynN (original poster new member #80617) posted at 11:27 AM on Monday, August 22nd, 2022
Girlfriend of mine of a year messing around me,I know it is with an ex of hers and caught her once.With me,a fulltime crossdresser of 10 years and was good to me at first.Then things changed with her.I cannot stand what she has been doing and knows I live a much happier life I see myself as now,do not miss that life I had after I started fulltime as Jaelynn 10 years ago.Knows I always had a soft side that wanted out and staying out.If caught again,she is gone and going to kick her out.Cannot stand her cheating on me and has been treating me wrong at times
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 11:51 AM on Monday, August 22nd, 2022
Why not just end it now? She doesn’t sound like a very good person.
[This message edited by The1stWife at 11:52 AM, Monday, August 22nd]
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
JaelynN (original poster new member #80617) posted at 12:14 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2022
Wants to try working things out and know it will not work with her
annb ( member #22386) posted at 1:09 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2022
Young, single, no kids?
Run, Forrest, Run. You deserve much better and a faithful partner.
Sorry she did this to you. Find a good IC to help you work through the trauma.
Have you checked out the HEaling Library? Chock full of great articles.
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 1:43 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2022
Wants to try working things out and know it will not work with her
That's all you need to know.
As others have said - RUN!
Take care of yourself.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades - Children (1 still at home) Multiple DDays w/same AP until I told OBS 2018 Cease & Desist sent spring 2021"Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
QuitePossible ( member #80726) posted at 8:19 PM on Friday, August 26th, 2022
Count yourself lucky that you found out this early.
Head for zee hills!
src9043 ( member #75367) posted at 8:41 PM on Friday, August 26th, 2022
A girlfriend of one year cheats on you. You don't think she will remain faithful even though she wants another chance. I assume there are no children. The fact that you are a full time crossdresser will probably limit the girlfriend pool but that should not stop you from moving on from someone who you can't and shouldn't trust. To top it off, she periodically doesn't treat you well. You have little invested. MOVE ON.
[This message edited by src9043 at 8:43 PM, Friday, August 26th]
HarryD ( member #72423) posted at 2:52 PM on Saturday, August 27th, 2022
" I been trying to work it out"
Unfortunately she is not trying, to be good to you, Unless she drops / NC with the BF you are going nowhere. She has is cake eating, and having a good time at it.
pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 2:06 AM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
J it's not good for your self esteem. You're going toward a better you after all. This isn't good and supportive. No need to live a life of stress. Free yourself and shine.
Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.
ZenMumWalking ( Guide #25341) posted at 5:23 PM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
((((JaelynN)))) <--- hugs to you
There will be someone out there for you..... if she's cheating after only 1 year, RUN FOR THE HILLS - before you have children, a mortgage, other joint property. All that only makes things more complicated.
I know it hurts. I know it sucks. The thing is though that you will be so much better off if you put her in your rear view mirror.
((((JaelynN))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
Western ( member #46653) posted at 12:38 AM on Monday, August 29th, 2022
girlfriend of one year ? Dump her. What's 
your loss ?
Topic is Sleeping.
