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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 4:15 AM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014

deceivedguy...

PayPal is really for donations only...the upgrades usually come from cc's.

The system that is currently in place is for the various upgrades that are paid in full at that time. You would need to upgrade for the level you would like and at anytime you can cancel that upgrade and opt for a different one.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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deceivedguy ( member #44049) posted at 8:58 AM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014

thanks

Me (49), WW (44), 2 Awesome DDs
DDay 6/2/2014 - 16 years married
Possibly new or continuing A, currently.
Worst experience of my life. Still having a tough time dealing with this. I appreciate your support, more than I can express.

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hopeful325 ( new member #43521) posted at 11:50 AM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

I plan to donate or upgrade regardless because this site is needed by so many. If I upgrade will I get access to the investigative tips or do I still need 50 posts? I love this site and it has helped me so much but I'm not a frequent poster unless I feel like I have something vital to contribute. It could take a year to get to 50 and I feel like the investigation tips are needed in the early stages lol

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 7:18 PM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

hopeful325...

If you upgrade you would still need the 51 legitimate posts to gain access into I-tips. Getting to 51 isn't that hard when you're offering support to others

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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LumpyLola ( member #44330) posted at 9:02 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014

Can I pay for Premium Access with one of those store-bought CC's?

My lawyer advised me not to use our joint CC's until further notice, since they are in my H's name. He advised that any CC purchase I make should go through a generic card, so as not to leave a paper trail.

This makes sense, since my H just up and left in July, and I don't know anything about his financial doings, so the lawyer suggests that I should do the same.

Is this possible? I'm ready to roll with the payment right now!

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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 9:07 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014

LumpyLola,

I chatted with Mangled Heart about this and he is unsure if a generic card would work due to verification steps. He said that you could try it and see. I'm sorry that the answer isn't a clear yes or no.

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LumpyLola ( member #44330) posted at 11:32 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014

Oh dear... I sure hope it will work. I love this site, and all the warm support I've gotten here...and I'd especially love to upgrade to Premium!

Is there some other way, then? Perhaps by money order?

I'm surprised to find that no one else has asked about this yet, considering that lots of BS's here mention that they are trying to keep their post-A financial transactions a secret from their WS's.

If you can find out anything else about this, please let me know.

Thanks!

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 12:05 AM on Tuesday, September 9th, 2014

LumpyLola...

I'm sending you a PM.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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MissMovingOn ( member #30720) posted at 8:12 PM on Thursday, December 4th, 2014

I need help with my account. I think my card declined one month (October?) and I've since had a payment come out (November) but my premium access hasn't been restored. I didn't realize November had come out until just now (flaky!).

Me: BS, 34
Him: (SA/NPD)WH, 31
Multiple ddays since 2010 (Latest January 15th 2013) - not counting anymore!
FINAL FINAL DDay - August 8, 2014. I AM DONE!

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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 8:14 PM on Thursday, December 4th, 2014

I alerted the administrators. They will be in touch and can help you out.

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 MangledHeart (original poster webmaster #1) posted at 8:26 PM on Thursday, December 4th, 2014

MissMovingOn, you have a PM.

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

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devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 8:19 PM on Thursday, December 25th, 2014

I've noticed that some members stories on their profile page are full of <p></p> tags replacing blank lines.

Then it happened to mine. I finally got around to finding the problem: Go to your profile, choose SImplicity, edit your story, bang! paragraph tags.

The tags do not show when reviewing your story in SImplicity, but switch back to the general interface and there they are, in all of their paragraphy glory.

thanks!

Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.

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dullache ( member #45999) posted at 11:19 PM on Sunday, December 28th, 2014

Is the PM function part of premium access? I can't seem to find a way to PM.

Also, I have never found anything in the healing library other than FAQ. I can never find the links other members refer me to.

I am certain the problems are on my part, what do I need to do differently?

Me: BS/fWH
Her: fWW/BS
My dday: Oct 95 (15+ PA)
Her dday: 4 total, last 11/24/2014

Status: R is moving along, tears, joys and all. Thank you Jesus
5 kids (youngest 15)
Married: 28 years

Bitterness is like eating rat poison and hoping the rat di

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 12:13 PM on Monday, December 29th, 2014

Is the PM function part of premium access? I can't seem to find a way to PM.

The PM function is available to all members over 51 posts. Click on the two smiley faces to the right of the username you want to PM.

Also, I have never found anything in the healing library other than FAQ. I can never find the links other members refer me to.

The Healing Library has numerous links. By default you (general term) are taken to the FAQ's...but just click on any of the Titles in there. Articles, Books, Links, Abbreviations, etc.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:13 AM, December 29th (Monday)]

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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nme1 ( member #44360) posted at 3:39 AM on Thursday, January 29th, 2015

Hi, I'm having trouble trying to upgrade to premium. I keep getting an address error come up - probably because my state has 3 initials and not 2 (I'm in Australia). Any suggestions?

Me: BS
Him: WS
M 16 yrs 2 x DS
D-Day 6th March 2014

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:53 AM on Friday, January 30th, 2015

nme...

MH will work on the programming tomorrow...thanks for letting us know!!

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 1:34 PM on Saturday, February 7th, 2015

I don't know if this is the place to do this. Probably preaching to the converted.

I would encourage all to help keep this site running. Our ICs are $120 - $180/hour (Canadian) plus a 2 hour drive one-way. IMO any contribution to this site is a bargain. It is more than a bargain. It is a value proposition. I have access 24 hours a day. The people here have personal experience whether BS or WS. It is a huge support group. The leads to other information, the different perspectives whether I agree with them or not, the guidance, 2X4s, the mods and guides are priceless.

There are some here who probably can't afford the cost of a cup of coffee. But others, like myself, can afford much more than that. IMO it is a compassionate thing to make sure they can get the access they so dearly need (just as I do).

BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020

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livebythesea ( member #38900) posted at 8:16 PM on Thursday, March 12th, 2015

Wondering if I can and how to gain access to all my posts. Posts from the beginning (April 2013)?

Me - 65 I often have to remind myself of my age! Husband - 65 DD1 April 5 2013 (a lie)DD2 April 23 2013DD3 June 22 20133 children 5 grandchildren

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h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 11:12 PM on Wednesday, March 25th, 2015

I re-upgraded on 3/9 when I found out I wasn't going to be unemployed after all (Woo hoo!)and I still can't access my old posts. Does it usually take longer than a few weeks?

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:21 AM on Thursday, March 26th, 2015

h0peless...

Your post history should be located in the Simplicity version and by clicking on View Older Posts under your profile

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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