Maisindu (original poster member #59249) posted at 7:17 PM on Sunday, February 9th, 2025
Last December I found out WH was back into cheating. This time I didn't waste any time on investigation or anything else. My sons persuaded me to see MC and IC, although I had already decided to leave. I tried to be civil through the holidays. He was careless and suspicious all the time. Yesterday again I caught him and he went very nervous and tried to gaslight me, lie his way out of the mess, but I am actively looking for a place to move out this week. Hopefully tomorrow I can settle something.
My lesson: the guy is seriously sick, a pathological liar, a people pleaser, a pharisee who speaks all about God but knows him not. 
Me- BW- 43 Him-WH-52 23yr marriage 2003 EA, 2008 2 EA, 2016-2017 EA/PA 2024 new A
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 7:29 PM on Sunday, February 9th, 2025
{{Hugs}}
Good luck with your journey. Remember to give yourself time to grieve and practice self-care. It sounds like you did a lot of the heavy work and he just isn't going to change. You deserve better.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 3:05 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2025
I’m sorry it has come to this but you need to climb out from this and get to a better place.
I wish you peace and calm once you find a new residence.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
annb ( member #22386) posted at 2:22 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2025
I'm so sorry.
Apparently he's not going to change, and you need to move on to a happier life without all the hell he has brought into your marriage.
