Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 4:06 AM on Friday, March 27th, 2026
I am wondering how other posters have dealt with the "moral injury" that can be part of surviving infidelity…..
Recently i have been struggling and when i learned about the concept of moral injury, some things seemed to make more sense to me.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 11:35 AM on Friday, March 27th, 2026
That is a tough one. I think that we as the betrayed suffer far longer than the cheaters. While I recognize that the cheaters struggle with the guilt, they don’t really understand betrayal trauma unless they have been on the receiving end of it.
I constantly remind myself that my H is no longer the cheating jerk he was years ago. I actively stop myself from focusing on the past and choose to live in the present.
It took me years and years and years to get that to work for me.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 12:12 PM on Friday, March 27th, 2026
I'm only a year out. In fact, we're swiftly approaching the first anniversary of my d day and I've been struggling because I know what was going on this week last year. I had a little meltdown yesterday, but we worked through it, if somewhat painfully.
So to answer your question, I'm still dealing with the moral injury.
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
