Mari104 (original poster member #63422) posted at 9:23 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2024
I can't believe I am actually on here saying this...but I am dating someone. 
And this has the potential to become something amazing. Still seems surreal.
All of my previous posts have been about my XWH.I never came on here and told you all about my "dating life". This is exciting. 
Here is the kicker.....He happens to be one of my ex-husband's former very close friends. They worked together for 20+ years. He is someone that I have also known for over 20 years. He has known my children their entire life and I have known his. He is part of our "friend group". Has attended family parties, annual Friendsgiving, Christmas, etc. Even attended my daughter's Sweet 16 earlier this year with his kids. After my XWH did what he did, his friendships with most of his long-term friends ended. Some because my XWH was too ashamed to face people and just cut them off. Others because people just stopped speaking to him. So this "new" man in my life has not spoken to my XWH for a couple of years. In his words he "has no interest in being his friend. They have nothing in common anymore and he is not the type of person he wants to be around." So, I don't have to worry about him caring what my ex-husband's reaction is going to be or whether this will ever affect their ability to be friends in the future. He told me he could care less if he gets upset.
He is also divorced and recently moved into a new place. The kids and I were invited over to his house this weekend for a housewarming dinner. Our other family friends will also be attending. We have not broken the news to everyone, but the friends that do know are so happy for us. I haven't spoken to my XWH's family yet, with the exception of my SIL, but I know they will all be happy for me. (For those that don't know....I have remained very close to my XWH's family. I still spend all my holidays with them and they have been so good to the kids and I.) They have continued to be supportive and funny thing....they all know my new man as well and love him. 
He invited me to a dinner with his CEO next month. Feels nice to be someone's plus one. To get dressed up and feel amazing again. To be with someone that wants to show you off. Calls you beautiful every day and makes you feel worthy. I feel like he is my rainbow at the end of the storm.
[This message edited by Mari104 at 9:24 PM, Wednesday, November 13th]
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:29 AM on Thursday, November 14th, 2024
Sounds promising. Please keep us updated. It's so nice to hear new beginning stories.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Mari104 (original poster member #63422) posted at 3:31 PM on Thursday, November 14th, 2024
leafields, thank you! I will definitely keep you all updated. And I agree, I also love reading about new beginnings. Gives us all some much needed hope in the midst of the shit storms we have been forced to endure.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:29 PM on Thursday, November 14th, 2024
I am happy for you! You deserve to be treated well!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 2:40 PM on Friday, November 15th, 2024
Wishing you much happiness!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
LittleRussian ( member #36658) posted at 1:52 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2024
I hope it all works out for you.
My new beginning turned into something amazing and we're getting married next year.
Best of luck
Me - firmly middle aged
Him XH - slightly younger (but not much!)
3 young adult children
