Topic is Sleeping.
Lolati11 (original poster member #34915) posted at 2:50 AM on Tuesday, December 26th, 2023
Hello family ,
An update after the second D-day 2 , confrontation . I went on my fabulous cruise with him and had a great time . I was strong didn’t allow or fall for any gas lighting any bs . Came back and filed for Divorce that came final . No remorse, no regrets . I won’t lie as far and say I didn’t get emotional heck I did I cried my eyes out . But what a relief !!
Are we still friends? Yes ! Did he find out he was played by the ow ? Yes ! Did I secretly enjoy it ? Yes ! But at the end of the day it was his Destiney and mine . I put boundaries between us and moved on . I don’t think I am ready for another relationship anytime soon . I love my time alone and have been doing things I forgot I enjoyed . A lots of reading , walking in parks and connecting with friends and family memebers no ones really knows about my divorce unless I feel like sharing it . Guess what ? Life continues no matter what I am not sure what the future holds for me but I am taking it one day at time and enjoying it . Healing my self as well
Me:36Him: 53OW: a monster that I called friend before D-Day:June 20,2011
D-Day #2 February 2023
Me: 42 Him: 59 OW : 49 6kids and 3 baby dads
You made a fool out of me and she made a fool out of you
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:26 PM on Tuesday, December 26th, 2023
Thanks for the update. I'm very glad it's so positive.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 4:49 PM on Tuesday, December 26th, 2023
I love this update. Glad you are putting yourself first. Life is so beautiful on the other side of this!
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 1:50 AM on Wednesday, December 27th, 2023
Thanks for returning and updating, it gives hope to those that can't see past the hurdles in front of them.
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 32 years
Howcthappen ( member #80775) posted at 4:18 AM on Wednesday, December 27th, 2023
What do you mean played by the OW?
Three years since DdayNever gonna be the sameReconcilingThe sting is still present
Emotionalhell ( member #39902) posted at 11:26 AM on Wednesday, December 27th, 2023
I am glad you are in a better place and moving forward with your life. I know it’s been a hell of ride.
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 1:02 PM on Wednesday, December 27th, 2023
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Emptyglass ( member #80295) posted at 4:38 PM on Wednesday, December 27th, 2023
❤️ life does continue. Affairs are not what defines us. Our lives are so much more than that! Awesome for putting yourself first.
HardKnocks ( member #70957) posted at 4:52 PM on Wednesday, December 27th, 2023
Topic is Sleeping.
