she has done everything expected of her
Exactly what has she done?
At minimum she should have..
Full transparency, you get full access to all accounts, her phone,passwords included.
Tested for stds.
She answers all of your questions without anger or defensiveness, and no blame.
She goes to IC to figure out why she cheated.
Since the affair was with a coworker, she finds a new job.
She is empathetic, and fully remorseful.
And anything else you need to feel safe.
Your job for the first several months, is to watch her actions,get tested for stds, take care of yourself, and call the OBS and tell them of the affair.
She says I’ve changed
Of course you have. You've been traumatized by her behavior.
And she tells you you can't do anything right in bed?
I'm sorry,but honestly, when a WW says that,it's most likely that she is still in the affair, she just took it underground.
Also? It's cruel. It shows no remorse.