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So, to everyone who thinks it’s all happiness in the life of xh and ow I have an update.

A family friend told me that my now adult sons have told her they rarely go to their Dad’s house because the OW (now wifetress) is straight up crazy as hell and a psycho. At Dads house their dad and OW are always sitting around drinking, smoking, and fighting. I suspected as much, but hearing it from those who have been to their house makes it believeable.

Out in public, these two are all smiles, dressed perfectly, drive new vehicles, and have a brand new house. But as we hear on SI a lot, that 2 screwed up people who destroy families, and never get mental help will continue to be screwed up people.

Oh I hear you there. my XWH and the OW have been married for years. Just so glad she took him from me. The X is out of a job these days.

Yes bonetired, I too, am so thankful he’s her problem- actually each other’s problem now!

Sad the kids are just being cheated out of a relationship with their dad. But they need to do what is best for them.

Out in public, these two are all smiles, dressed perfectly, drive new vehicles, and have a brand new house.

Funny how they feel they have to keep up up appearances to hide their rotten core! I call it the ‘shiny veneer’ syndrome.

Oh I hear you there. my XWH and the OW have been married for years. Just so glad she took him from me. The X is out of a job these days.

I share your sentiment Bonetired: these days I am so grateful to AP (now gone) for taking him from me that I would build her a statue

Karmafan or send then a really expensive bottle of wine with a thank you card attached.

Sad the kids are just being cheated out of a relationship with their dad. But they need to do what is best for them.

I thought this at first in MY situation. My XWH had a child with another woman...NOT the adultery co-conspirator...about 7 years after we D. Then THEY separated when that child was about 2. That was around the same age my child was when WE separated.

Looking back NOW that they are both grown...these precious children HAD great relationships with their Dad . It was NOT with their biological father...or as my child likes to call him...the sperm donor . But BOTH children grew up in loving homes with Dads who LOVED them . Even though me and the other child's Mom weren't in any way related...we made sure that these two kids knew each other as brother and sister...and spent time with their paternal relatives..and yes...even the sperm donor.

When they became adults...they each tried to have a relationship with the sperm donor. He was NOT "Dad" material...and neither one of them have had any contact with him in YEARS. They would both agree that they are much better off for it .

What is really sad to me is that my XWH cheated himself out of so MUCH by his selfish ways. HIS choice. WE however...have been BLESSED with additional family...and grandchildren to SHARE !!!

The wife he has now...abandoned her children when they were younger FOR my XWH . Her children are grown now too...and want NOTHING to do with HER. THEY can have their fancy home...and cars...and whatever material things they buy next. There is NO better GIFT than the LOVE of FAMILY...and I have seen firsthand that DNA has nothing to do with what family IS .

And you all know that when "dad and AP" get old, they're going straight to the old people home with no one to visit. That is what they deserve and that is what will be served up to them.

Fancy home and cars won't matter when no one comes to visit you during the latter years in your life. Family, it comes first, second and last. That is of course, your family is just a useless sperm/egg donor type.