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Notagain1 (original poster new member #78464) posted at 9:39 PM on Friday, March 19th, 2021
I am spending time with my hearts...my grandkids. My emotions are all over the place!
I am so happy to see them and filled with my love for them..
I feel sad to know the grandpa they think so highly of is at a point in his life where they are not as important as a bottle or a fantasy relationship with someone else.
I feel relieved to be with someone (daughter-in-law) who truly knows how extreme AH drinking had become.
I am angry to hear more details of this whole crappy situation, that AWH wanted to separate on Valentines day, while our daughter was with us, but didn't.
I am hurt to think my daughter may be on his side (she drinks too), and may be telling me lies too and AWH shows no remorse.... NONE!! When I called to tell him I know more, he blamed our DIL for filling my head and getting to me.
this is way harder than I thought.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 12:03 AM on Saturday, March 20th, 2021
(((Notagain1))) it is so hard 
I get information sometimes from my kids and my daughter either sympathizes with STBX or can't wait to get away from him but nonetheless it hurts when children are involved (even adult children).
You may have to ask them not to tell you anything about what he is doing or thinking anymore. It sets me back every time it happens.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:28 AM on Sunday, March 21st, 2021
So sorry today was tough. What my grandsons need is a place to be. A place of peace and no anxiety, just a place to be who they are. Mom and dad enforce rules. I try to function with in their rules, but my place is where they can just be who they are.
They recognize that and can relax and enjoy our time together.
Focus on being that awesome grandma you can be. People remember how you make them feel.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
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