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The Book Club :
Recommendation for self esteem, self worth.

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 mamabear22 (original poster member #62311) posted at 9:21 PM on Wednesday, June 3rd, 2020

Hi all,

Could anyone recommend a good book on building your self worth or self esteem.

Putting your self first that kind of thing.

I know that is where I really need to focus right now.

A bit about what you liked about the book might be helpful.

Thank you in advance.

Me - BS (42)
WH - 48
6 month emotional and PA
I think that was all, still TT
Married 21 years
DDay - August 2017
Reconciling - at least trying to.

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Hedwig ( member #74175) posted at 9:36 AM on Thursday, June 4th, 2020

Hi! I am currently working on this myself, as a recommendation from my therapist. The book I am using is 'Build your confidence with CBT' by Manja de Neef and I am really enjoying it so far.

What I like most about it, is that it gives you assignments so you actually have to do some work instead of just reading. The reading itself has given me a lot of insights but then the assignments really build on that.

It's about building self-esteem and self-worth, not so much about putting your self first. I mean, it will be a logical next step, I think. But the book does not help you with saying 'no' when you want to say yes or that kind of thing. It helps you see and focus on the good traits you already have within you to make a more well-round, positive self-esteem.

Dday - 10/2018
Caught them, EMDR helped
Ended the relationship after false R for 1,5 years

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:20 PM on Saturday, July 4th, 2020

I'm sorry I didn't see this earlier.

Born to Win by James and Jongeward

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 4:07 PM on Tuesday, July 7th, 2020

I liked Rick Hanson's "Resilient". Not so much "about" self esteem and self worth, but he talks A LOT about "being for yourself" kind of thing.

I also got a lot from Brene Brown's books.

M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived

It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies

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