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Helpful Books for WSes

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NPDMagnet ( new member #34909) posted at 5:22 AM on Wednesday, February 29th, 2012

Have not started it yet but it was highly recommended to me by my OMA (technically my BFF's mom but my "Other Mother" & "Other Grandmother" to my son).

She has been a practicing psychologist for over 40 years:

Your Erroneous Zones by Wayne W. Dyer

What part of an inverse tangent function approaching an asymptote don't you understand?

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 3:11 AM on Tuesday, March 13th, 2012

bump

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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 Fallen (original poster member #4313) posted at 12:09 AM on Tuesday, April 3rd, 2012

For Openbook.

You can't heal what you won't feel.

"There would be no grand absolution, only forgiveness meted out in these precious sips. It would well up from his heart in spoonfuls, and he would feed it to me. And it would be enough."

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 Fallen (original poster member #4313) posted at 8:12 PM on Thursday, June 14th, 2012

You can't heal what you won't feel.

"There would be no grand absolution, only forgiveness meted out in these precious sips. It would well up from his heart in spoonfuls, and he would feed it to me. And it would be enough."

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nealos ( member #35284) posted at 3:33 PM on Friday, June 15th, 2012

Different "genre" of book-- I personally had experienced intimacy problems because porn was a part of my life, and I found these books helpful. I'm sharing in case anyone else is curious about it too. I don't pretend to know how everyone got to this site.

The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography

-Maltz

Porn Nation: Conquering America's #1 Addiction

-Leahy

33yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 2:27 AM on Wednesday, September 12th, 2012

bump

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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heartstabber ( member #34079) posted at 1:53 PM on Wednesday, September 12th, 2012

Thanks for the bump. Lot's of good information - many books and websites I wasn't aware of.

Me: WW
Married: 15 years
DD: November 2011

Let's eat Grandma. Let's eat, Grandma. Commas save lives.

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 12:31 PM on Thursday, November 8th, 2012

Bump

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 4:48 PM on Sunday, December 9th, 2012

Bump for sohowamI.

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 4:50 AM on Saturday, December 29th, 2012

bump

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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cinnamongurl ( member #37879) posted at 4:59 AM on Saturday, December 29th, 2012

Thank you so much for this thread!! Such a wealth of information. I look forward to reading many of these. I picked up 'NOT just friends' today, and also ordered 'sexual detours' online. Thanks again!

Me:FWS 42 He: FBS 43 and my heart
Together 22 years. We survived infidelity. "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos

CG

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 2:15 PM on Sunday, January 20th, 2013

Bump.

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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knightsbff ( member #36853) posted at 2:56 PM on Monday, January 21st, 2013

A few more I didn't see on the list that have been important for me:

As A Man Thinketh by James Allen - Very old and old fashioned but very good. It's short so read it all then decide what you think.

The Miracle of Forgiveness by Spencer W. Kimble - very religious but priceless for anyone of any Christian faith.

The Self-Centered Marriage by Hal Runkle, I took his instructor course in Scream Free Parenting for my job and couldn't believe how much of it was applicable to my sitch. Check out the Scream Free website. Amazing stuff.

ETA

The Mindfulness Solution: everyday practices for everyday problems, by Ronald Siegel. Helps me to deal.

[This message edited by knightsbff at 9:00 AM, January 21st (Monday)]

fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.

I edit often to fix stuff ☺️

Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.

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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 3:47 AM on Sunday, January 27th, 2013

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DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.

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uncertainone ( member #28108) posted at 12:18 AM on Monday, February 11th, 2013

Bump

Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 12:52 AM on Monday, February 11th, 2013

Edited: Oh my gosh...you already bumped it!

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 6:53 PM, February 10th (Sunday)]

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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SandAway ( member #37775) posted at 7:16 PM on Friday, March 15th, 2013

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fWW
BH Tred
M 19yrs
DDay Nov. 2011

Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 2:22 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

Bump

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 1:51 AM on Monday, May 20th, 2013

Bump

Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again

Staying together for the kids

D-day 2010

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sickandtired630 ( new member #39291) posted at 9:15 PM on Wednesday, June 26th, 2013

bumping for later.

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Topic is Sleeping.
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