Well, this has been a shit show.
For starters, I went home to an incredibly sick WH. Fever, coming out both ends kind of thing. I thought about not having the confrontation, not because he was sick per say - but because I wanted him to be aware enough to even have the conversation.
Needless to say - he knew I had something to talk about and so we did.
I just asked how EAP was, and his face dropped. I let him believe that small town talk worked it's way back to me so I could keep his work phone out of the equation. Surprisingly, he gave up more than I thought he would. Still don't think it was 100% truth, but he told me everything I already knew and then some. Adamantly states that nothing physical happened with her. Said that her wanting more was what made him stop talking to her. He realized what he was doing at that point and so he said that's when he blocked her on everything but his work phone because he can't block her on that.
We got into the other 3 as well, because frankly, I never recovered from those either.
I did record it. Not sure if I will listen to it anytime soon. I wasn't hateful the entire time, but I had moments that I was not proud of what I said or how I said it. This angry BS stuff is no joke.
Obviously, nothing got fixed last night, but I gave him my requirements that I need before I can even trust that any R could possibly happen.
AND THEN.....this morning happened.
In all of the mess, I totally spaced asking to see his work phone. So, I stupidly texted him saying that I wanted to see any and all conversations that they had between the two of them (knowing full well I have pictures of all of it). He said he doesnt have any. I asked him - are you sure? Even your work phone deleted folder? He said yep, they are all gone.....BOOM
I know for a FACT that they were still there yesterday after we talked, because I looked. He f'ing deleted them right then. So, I called him out on it and he STILL tried to insist that they had been deleted for a while. I told him that I had already seen them, all of them, all 286 of them, LAST NIGHT.
He finally fessed up, told me what he did. F'ing hell man. I had hoped that after last night he would have done the right thing, but well....that's what I get for hoping.
** I really want to talk to the EAP now. I know it probably is pointless, but I feel like if I don't I could miss out on more truth. Is this advisable? Could it be worth it? She has no reason to lie because she has no significant other.**