"in good times and in bad"
I feel for you. My 14th Antiversary of D-day is just a few days away.
This was also the anniversary of our first date. My FWS, as is her usual, seems and acts oblivious that I might have issues around this time, despite speaking to her multiple times about it over the years and 4 years of MC.
To compound the damage of her short affair, during it she took her AP to the place we met for our first date and gave him a blowjob to full completion, within a few yards of where we met up, in the middle of the day in broad daylight, in a public park, outside of the car with him leaning up against a tree. We went there to meet up and hike together as our first date...which did not involve a BJ in the park.
Every year on the anniversary of that date we would go back, and later did so with our children, it became an annual family tradition, and it was initially her idea.
D-day actually occurred, 9 years after the affair, because of her changes in behavior around this annual tradition. I had bought her a gift, and she had made plans for us to be elsewhere, with two of our children at a public event.
She again hasn't said a word about our upcoming combined anniversary/antiversary, but instead is acting like nothing ever happened, withdraw, play mindless distracting games on her phone, and listen to old shows on YouTube, which is now apparently her annual family tradition.
ETA: I forgot to finish this earlier. I stay focused on these things; I did not cause this betrayal, this betrayal has nothing to do with me or some lack in me, I continue to try to do "the next right thing" regardless of what anyone else has done, I just do my best to get through each day and stay true to my own values.
In good times and bad....
[This message edited by standinghere at 7:33 AM, Monday, March 11th]