Webbit (original poster member #84517) posted at 8:23 AM on Monday, December 1st, 2025
This weekend just gone was hectic! Christmas Party, Friend Party and a 2nd Birthday party for our niece.
At every single one of those events I did not once think about the affair. I think that may be a new first. I had a great time at all events but was also so happy to go home and be our family.
It’s a nice feeling to not think about it…..even if it’s just for a few moments.
Asterisk ( member #86331) posted at 9:02 AM on Monday, December 1st, 2025
I am excited for you Webbit. It is a sign of growth and healing. The goal is to have more and more days that overtake the painful memories of the betrayal of infidelity that fights to take control and disrupt every aspect of one’s life.
It was nice to wake up to your good news.
Asterisk
Preacher ( new member #82852) posted at 2:53 PM on Monday, December 1st, 2025
I’m so happy for you! It is such a blessing when we are able to have a little mental & emotional respite…
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 3:27 PM on Monday, December 1st, 2025
That is a sign of healing.
Good for you!
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 4:41 PM on Monday, December 1st, 2025
We did Thanksgiving dinner at the house of a close family friend of my wife's family this year. I didn't think about it at the time, but I made it through the whole night without that dark cloud of my wife's affair hanging over my head and tainting the evening. I was dreading going there, but damnit if I didn't end up even having a good time. My son was there and we pretty much buddied up and hung out most of the night, along with my wife. We even got some updated family pics of just the 3 of us, and a couple of just her and our son. She was tickled because we haven't had any recent photos of the 3 of us for a while, and she couldn't wait to share them on Facebook and with her friends.
It really pleased me to see how happy that made her. D day was 8 months ago, and while I'm still having some moments and talk about it quite a bit with my wife, she's very patient and engages with me every time. I really think she "gets it." Like, really gets it. Sometimes I feel like I'm beating a dead horse, but her attitude and willingness to engage and own her part in it has helped so much.
I no longer fear a repeat, and I'm not hyper vigilant anymore. I mean, I'm paying attention, but I'm not obsessing over her whereabouts every minute of the day, and we do pretty much everything together now anyway.
But yeah, I know what you mean, Webbit. It was nice to feel somewhat "normal" the whole time we were there. I see some light at the end of the tunnel.
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 4:05 AM on Tuesday, December 2nd, 2025
LOVE THIS!!! Thank you for sharing 
!!!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
