Topic is Sleeping.
SoConfused23 (original poster new member #82698) posted at 2:38 AM on Thursday, January 4th, 2024
I know I shouldn’t but I was looking at OW’s social media pages and saw that she has nude pics of herself posted in an effort to draw people to her only fans page. Would you report these posts? They were posted a month ago. Yes, I know I should not be looking at her pages. I can’t help it.
Grieving ( member #79540) posted at 3:34 AM on Thursday, January 4th, 2024
It’s healthier not to look, but I get it. I’m 3.5 years out from Dday and still occasionally look, but the urge has mostly faded.
But yeah, I might report that if it’s a site that isn’t supposed to have nudes. Mainstream social media sites have prohibitions against nudity for good reason. If someone’s violating the user terms, report it.
Husband had six month affair with co-worker. Found out 7/2020. Married 20 years at that point; two teenaged kids. Reconciling.
maise ( member #69516) posted at 4:21 AM on Thursday, January 4th, 2024
I get looking also but just remember that when you do, you’re hurting yourself more and you don’t deserve that.
That’s what kept me from looking, I would tell myself it would only injure me more and I didn’t deserve it.
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BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 5:34 AM on Thursday, January 4th, 2024
I report anything that's inappropriate. I'd do it in a heartbeat.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:33 PM on Thursday, January 4th, 2024
I thought nudes weren't allowed on social media pages. I'm surprised it hasn't been flagged already. Also I would block her to keep yourself from looking. It just makes things more painful for you.
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
emergent8 ( Guide #58189) posted at 7:52 PM on Thursday, January 4th, 2024
Yes, I know I should not be looking at her pages. I can’t help it.
No judgment at all from me - trust me I checked OW's social media religiously post D-day. HOWEVER..... I can honestly say that when I worked up the nerve to block her I started to feel a lot better. I started thinking about her less when checking in on her wasn't part of my day. I stopped feeling compelled to do it. Every once in a while (I'm talking VERY infrequently at this point, it used to be more often) I will unblock her and have a peak. It doesn't affect me the way it used to, which is a good thing.
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[This message edited by emergent8 at 7:53 PM, Thursday, January 4th]
Me: BS. Him: WS.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
Happily reconciled.
SoConfused23 (original poster new member #82698) posted at 10:19 PM on Friday, January 5th, 2024
I thought nudes weren't allowed on social media pages. I'm surprised it hasn't been flagged already.
I thought so too! I was very surprised. I reported it.
To all who gently encouraged me to block her and stop looking, I definitely will. It took me a year to find her. All I had to go on was a phone number and a first name. Now that I have found her, I will stop. Plus, she is model-type material (I'm not), so I know it's not healthy for my psyche. But, I needed to take a look at the person who texted me everything and forever changed my life as I knew it.
emergent8 ( Guide #58189) posted at 10:32 PM on Friday, January 5th, 2024
I totally get it. Like I said, I wanted to know too. I obsessed over it for way too long. I’m actually pretty sure that the very first post I ever made here (vs commenting on someone else’s post) was to celebrate blocking her.
I’m really not trying to guilt you, just wanted to reassure you that you will feel better when you are able to get to a headspace where she takes up less room.
But also yeah, I’m pretty sure naked photos violates a guideline or two.
Me: BS. Him: WS.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
Happily reconciled.
Topic is Sleeping.
