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Just as an alternative parallel to the similar thread on Affair Anthems...

What music did you turn to to heelp get through infidelity, during recovery, wether you R'd or D'd... no matter.

For myself--- I listened to a lot of Metallica

"King Nothing" (replaced mentally to "Queen Nothing")

"Ain't my B*tch"

two songs that were immensely cathartic while divorcing.

[This message edited by swoned at 6:17 PM, Thursday, November 9th]

Well played

A Murder of One by Counting Crows can keep me sane for the duration it plays.

Call and Answer by Bare Naked Ladies is amazing. I just love the realistic but reconciliatory tone, and then the bridge goes into

I’m warning you
Don’t ever do
Those crazy messed up things that you do

If you ever do
I promise you
I’ll be the first to crucify you

It’s time to prove
You’ve come back here to rebuild

[This message edited by InkHulk at 6:31 PM, Thursday, November 9th]

I will always be grateful to Beyonce for the Lemonade album, which was absolutely on repeat for me during that first year post-D-day. Lemonade, in case you're not familiar, is famously an album about Jay-z's infidelity. I cannot tell you how many times I found comfort in the fact that obviously the A said nothing about me, if even Beyonce could get cheated on. My favourite songs were Hold Up and Sorry. For me it was the right mix of hurt and angry and "I'm not putting up with this shit" versus straight up devastated (which certainly had it's place, but didn't feel productive to me).

Lots of angry and anguished music on my playlists from back in that timeframe.

30 seconds to mars-The Kill

Come, break me down

Bury me, bury me

I am finished with you

Look in my eyes

You're killing me, killing me

All I wanted was you

I tried to be someone else

But nothing seemed to change

I know now, this is who I really am inside

I've finally found myself

Fighting for a chance

I know now, this is who I really am

Papa Roach -> Scars

I can't help you fix yourself

But at least I can say I tried

I'm sorry but I gotta move on with my own life

I can't help you fix yourself

But at least I can say I tried

I'm sorry but I gotta move on with my own life

I tear my heart open

I sew myself shut

And my weakness is

That I care too much

And our scars remind us

That the past is real

I tear my heart open

Just to feel

Christina Perri ->Jar of Hearts

Who do you think you are?

Runnin' 'round leaving scars

Collecting your jar of hearts

Tearing love apart

You're gonna catch a cold

From the ice inside your soul

So don't come back for me

Who do you think you are?

A Fine Frenzy Almost Lover

Well, I'd never want to see you unhappy

I thought you'd want the same for me

Goodbye, my almost lover

Goodbye, my hopeless dream

I'm trying not to think about you

Can't you just let me be?

So long, my luckless romance

My back is turned on you

Should've known you'd bring me heartache

Almost lovers always do

The Killers Mr. Brightside

Jealousy, turning saints into the sea

Swimming through sick lullabies

Choking on your alibis

But it's just the price I pay

Destiny is calling me

Open up my eager eyes

'Cause I'm Mr. Brightside

[This message edited by grubs at 8:23 PM, Thursday, November 9th]

Just as an alternative parallel to the similar thread on Affair Anthems...

What music did you turn to to heelp get through infidelity, during recovery, wether you R'd or D'd... no matter.

For myself--- I listened to a lot of MetallicaJust as an alternative parallel to the similar thread on Affair Anthems...

Well, I’m still in the midst of things. R or D is still "TBD". We are supposed to be in "R" but my wife isn’t an active participant. I’m getting more resentful by the day….

Metallica is currently on my playlist too. "The Unforgiven" is prominent. I can empathize with the theme of "never being able to please someone and giving up":

They dedicate their lives
To running all of his.
He tries to please them all –
This bitter man he is.

Throughout his life the same –
He's battled constantly.
This fight he cannot win –
A tired man they see no longer cares.

The old man then prepares
To die regretfully –
That old man here is me.

On my truly dark days I am partial to F.O.A.D. by Kid Rock (yes, I think he’s a dirtbag too). You will have to Google the lyrics for that one yourselves

My stuff is all old. And angry. lol

The song I played over and over and over again was Break Stuff by Limp Bizkit. I damn near sprained everything just singing it.

Satisfying stuff:

I Don't Fuck With You - Big Sean

Mama's Broken Heart - Miranda Lambert

IDGAF - Dua Lipa

Wear My Ring - Bart Crow

Out Alpha the Alpha - Megan Thee Stallion (Girls only. Seriously, guys. Don't listen. It'll piss you off.)

Cinderella Snapped - Jax

Little Girl Gone - Chinchilla

[This message edited by SacredSoul33 at 3:10 PM, Friday, November 10th]

Sometimes I just have Silver Springs by Stevie Nicks on repeat for a week. I don't know that you'd really call it a "recovery" anthem but it sure speaks to me.

[This message edited by SackOfSorry at 10:48 PM, Thursday, November 9th]

A Thousand Stars in the Sky - whenever I heard it on the radio, I'd remember our early days together. It brought tears to my eyes, which was dangerous, because I listen to non-classical music on the radio only while driving.

The memories the song evoked, not the song itself, was what helped some 'r' word, but I don't know if it was recovery or reconciliation.