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So, I overhead DS1 and DS2 taking-
DS1- I went to Dads today and OW was yelling, cussing, slamming doors, going ballistic on everyone. You know how she gets.
DS2- Why do u even go over there you know how she is.
DS1 Well our 1/2 brother -Dads oldest son- is in town for a week. I want to see him. You wanna go over there tomorrow they said we can go on their boat with them?
DS2- Uh no. I don’t want to be trapped on a lake with them.
DS1- yeah I don’t think it would be fun if she goes crazy as usual.

They ended up inviting their 1/2 brother to dinner-btw it’s the first time he’s seen his Dad in 6 years, he lives out of state. My xh has not seen his 6 year old granddaughter until now.

Y’all-I never thought I’d get the satisfaction of hearing what it’s really like over there-but I think it’s freaking hilarious. My sons have gone over 1 time since Christmas-and they drive their own cars over so they can leave when the sh*t hits the fan. I hate it for my sons, but thank goodness they don’t get involved in the chaos. I promised them a quiet, drama free home at my house growing up and I’m so happy they have boundaries and can see distinct differences between their Dads house and mine.

This is a great post. Your kids are AWESOME!

Life is real, right? And when you have two demonstrably dysfunctional people living in close quarters, it's not always the fairy tale they planned.

Right!!!! XH/OW are dysfunctional!!!! It’s so funny they blamed their spouses on their sadness, anger, whatever, but the x spouses are out of the picture and you’re left with 2 miserable people!

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 3:57 AM, Wednesday, June 8th]

Oh how I enjoyed reading this.

HW,

You wrote, I went to Dads today and OW was yelling, cussing, slamming doors, going ballistic on everyone. Guess your ex didn't see that the hate OW had for her BH was a preview of what his life would be like.

There must be some reason why cheaters try to pry their way back into their betrayed spouses life again. My neighbors ex husband is now on Wife 3 and he was trying to sweet talk her into letting him come back to her house and living with her again. It's so absurd it seems like comedy.

Behind all the unicorns is just a big pile of unicorn poop. And they are living in it.
They probably think it’s because they are "passionate". Uh…no, bat shit crazy is more like it.

Glad your kids see through it. Nice job parenting, HW!

Y’all are awesome!! It IS unicorn poop and 2 insane people together.

XH drives down my street every couple of weeks, since they moved close to me. I usually turn away and put my nose in the air for fun. I think next time I’m gonna bust out laughing, but I try really hard to grey rock those people.

This post has made my day! 😄

I agree that when two selfish and dysfunctional people get together it doesn’t bode well for a happy home!

Thanks for sharing!! It really cheered me up!

Hopefully similar will be happening in my WS new home! Fingers crossed. 🤞😂🤣

Funny thing about this story.

The cheaters pretend their life is soooo perfect and wonderful. Their pride and ego and wanting to d save face will never allow them to admit they made the worst choice ever.

So they are stuck together in misery.

I’ve told this story before. On another blog a guy shared how his brother divorced his first wife and married the other woman (coworker). His young adult children were never interested in this woman who tried to be the "awesome stepmother". They were polite to her only because she threw money at them.

The second marriage was a disaster. That H been spent for too much money on his new wife’s plastic surgery. The second wife was never secure in her marriage and always had to keep up the trophy wife appearance.

Turns out the second wife was a closet alcoholic .

However this guy would never admit he made a mistake. He is miserable in this marriage but his ego and pride will never allow him to get a divorce. I’m certain the husband is no prize either and maybe the second wife is equally as miserable. But they are stuck together and good times and bad.

According to the kids, it appears as though their marriage is mostly bad. And the kids refuse to visit except on holidays or family events.

Seems to be a common trend when relationships start as affairs.

[This message edited by The1stWife at 12:40 PM, Wednesday, June 8th]

There is some data that indicates relationships started in infidelity don’t last.
Possibly because the only thing the couple have in common in the beginning is the capability to cheat.
I think we – the BS – have a role for these relationships that might help them through the first year, and that is to be the "evil" one they can both combine to hate and detest. We are the common enemy, and as some famous politician once said: the enemy of my enemies is my friend.
I have advocated a relatively realistic stance on relationships, including how to terminate them. I think one of the best things we can do is stand firm on realistic legally based demands while remaining detached and non-argumentative on personal or emotional demands. Do that and all of a sudden the happy couple no longer have a common enemy, but only have in common the capability to cheat.

At the beginning, from all the wise people in SI, I realized if I clearly stepped away from them and refused to interact with them in anyway, then it would be two dysfunctional people living together. If I continually fought with them, they would stay together bc they were bonding over fighting me. Over the years they tried to pull me into their fighting/drama, I’ve called the police on them, they’ve taken me to court (I won), but I’ve never engaged directly with them. * I don’t speak to doo doo on the bottom of my shoe, so why talk to it when it’s walking and taking?

We divorced in 2012. For the last 5 years I’ve heard snippets of their fighting!!! One time she was yelling, screaming, hitting my xh,locked my xwh out of his own house!!!! I guess they are gonna stay together, so I’m extremely happy they are miserable!!!!!!