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I posted on here a few months ago about not being sure about my current boyfriend. He still talked about his ex alot and he got a dog (I hate dogs). You guys encouraged me to end it and I did.

Thank you! As it turns out, my suspicions about him not being over his ex and him creating drama was true. Yesterday his ex wife's current boyfriend sent me a facebook message. In the message was a video from 2020 where it shows my ex boyfriend walking around her house carrying a knife, taking photos of everything, calling her "sweetie," accusing her of being difficult, etc...

Now, on one hand, I am so confused why my ex boyfriend's ex wife's current boyfriend felt the need to send this to me. Thats just weird and it creates unnecessary drama. I told him I didn't need to see anything else.

On the other hand. This video was taken at least 10 months after he moved out of her house and was already dating me. Why was he calling her sweetie, when we were already dating? Why was he so worried about what she still had in the house, when he had clearly left?

I can definitely see both sides were creating and adding to the drama. Now I am soooo glad to be out of all that mess and drama.

Great to hear! Next time you meet someone you will have this additional level of gut experience :)

Yesterday his ex wife's current boyfriend sent me a facebook message. In the message was a video from 2020 where it shows my ex boyfriend walking around her house carrying a knife, taking photos of everything, calling her "sweetie," accusing her of being difficult, etc...

Get in touch with Netflix and tell them you have an idea for their next drama

Joking aside, I am sorry it had to go so badly wrong for you, but well done for sticking to your boundaries and removing yourself from a very toxic situation without hesitation.

Oh my. He sounds like a stealth creeper. Glad you are free of him.

(And now you can like dogs— they were the perfect litmus test for you!)

Why was he calling her sweetie, when we were already dating?

There is plenty awful about your post besides this...

And it's weird that a guy would call people "sweetie"...

But, my GF calls *everyone* sweetie, it seems.

Good job avoiding that disaster.

I am SO glad that you are here and not part of a Dateline episode.

Bullet: DODGED!!!!!

Now, on one hand, I am so confused why my ex boyfriend's ex wife's current boyfriend felt the need to send this to me. Thats just weird and it creates unnecessary drama. I told him I didn't need to see anything else.

Did he know that you were broken up? Maybe XBF had said some things recently that implied that you were still together or talking about getting back together that made him concerned for you.

Personally, I don't believe exposing a dangerous person is drama and to call it such is to minimize it. It sounds to me like he was trying to do you a favor in case you were still involved with XBF in any way and I think it's a little telling that you focus more on him calling her "sweetie" and not on how he was HOLDING A KNIFE while doing it.

I'm glad that you're away from this psycho but I'm a little concerned if your biggest take away is about a potential for infidelity and not that this man was clearly making a threat against his XW's life as a way to keep her compliant while he harassed her. He could have easily done the same to you. You were unknowingly a few different decisions away from having this psycho come to your house with a knife and call you "sweetie". I'd question if any of her reactions were really "drama" so much as a response to his harassment and abuse. I'd probably be pretty difficult to deal with too if my ex showed up with a knife to call me pet names and take pictures. So difficult in fact I'd call the police and have him jailed for it. I'm sure he'd think I was being unreasonable and dramatic too.

Good job!
I advise you to watch out for knife-wielding ex though. You better file for RO so you won't encounter unnecessary incidents.