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 Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 3:35 AM on Monday, September 14th, 2020

Hello SI tribe.

I thought I would post to celebrate the fact I am still alive and infidelity free.

I lived to tell my infidelity story and am writing a new story of my life.

I worked really really hard on myself and I am healing.

I regret every minute I stayed with my cheating lying husband after I found out he "loved" some woman other than me. Every minute post me finding out he lied to me.

But you know what? I am forgiving myself for that pretty well too.

I laugh now. I have beautiful things in my life. I am enjoying learning how to better give and receive love.

I take showers most days now (unlike right after the infidelity). And I no longer give one iota about what THE EX or any of his co abusers in the "groups" he participated in on the internet or friends or family or anyone else but me thinks of me or my decision to say "no more".

I tell my story to people, and I am looking into possible opportunities to tell my story publicly because you never know... It might save the next person.

If you are reading this...you can survive infidelity too. I did.

I have a better life than I ever thought possible and my body is healing.

((Hugs)) to all on this journey.

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:37 AM on Monday, September 14th, 2020

:-). Nice to see you Shehawk. Glad your healing is progressing and that you are finding joy and happiness. Thank you for checking in!!

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 12:25 PM on Monday, September 14th, 2020

Awesome update, Shehawk and congratulations on being infidelity free!

Me-58 FWH-60 Married 40 years 9/2/2023 grown daughters-40&36.14yo GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); 12yo GD & 7yo GD(DD36). D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant

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twicefooled ( member #42976) posted at 1:57 PM on Monday, September 14th, 2020

Great uplifting post! I also struggled with forgiving myself for staying so long. But I had to remind myself that I did nothing wrong, I loved a cheater and that wasn't my fault. I was a good wife and don't regret my love.

<3

May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.

*********When you know better, you can do better*************

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