Lavender, hoping your fears have calmed a little, or you have your location checks! How did therapy go??
skan , thanks for the reply to YouMeI. T/J or not, you make some good points too. His use of "friend" is from the past, meaning 20-30 years ago. YouMeI has only one person he talks to, and that is his friend since kindergarten, but they speak maybe a few times a year, and this friend just does not have it in him to be understanding or supportive.
He is very isolated and it is hard; to say the least. No family, no new friends, some texts between some acquaintances, but outside of me and his counselor, that is pretty much it. His homework is to work on this, but given how friendships (and family relationships) worked out in the past ....why we are here on this site....he is understandably afraid to step outside the house, essentially.
This seems to be a season of loss for us. Parents of friends current and past seem to be on the other side of life, and he recently lost two friends of his peer group once upon a time.
What I find interesting is that the first friend loss was a friend at the older teens time frame, while this next person was of the younger teens peer group. The child has already lost his parents and siblings (due to choice not death), and I wonder how this will unfold, healing wise.
Meaning: I think this is a fabulous opportunity for each age group to grieve. Properly grieve for the loss of someone who was good in their lives, and recognize that there was (and IS!) good throughout time. Sure, it might be small, but it's there, and it's sooooo worth remembering and appreciating.
Death, understandably, is his hardest topic. I wonder if many of you can relate?
However, I think as we age, understanding how important a role death plays, can allow us to fully appreciate and embrace the human experience.
Of course, I'm not ready yet, and after years of planning his and coming so close to it, his fear has grown even stronger.
I am rambling. It is a strange thing to post like this, but I think it benefits all of us to have this conversation here too.
It sure will help me when you all respond with thoughts!