Topic is Sleeping.
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 4:53 PM on Thursday, May 11th, 2023
Sorry to hear about your chickens Tush. I gave up on any sort of birds just because of the constant loss. And that's with a totally enclosed coup and run. One small section of the coup floor was wood and not metal and something got in and killed everything.
The coyotes are here every night. The lights don't scare them off. I have small fireworks that sound like gun shots and even that doesn't scare them away anymore.
The goats had been locked up in their 30 foot trailer before it got dark but for some fucked up reason the boys broke the door some time after I went to bed. Found one dead under the trailer the others a bit here a bit there...
I locked the horses in the small paddock after I found the old gelding dead wrapped in the field fence and eaten. Looks like he got chased, got tangled and they got him.
Never have we had such loss by predators, especially over the winter. One morening when walking dd down to her bus we could hear howling/barking. On my way back to the house I could see a massive wolf at the forest line. This isnt close, usually we use binoculars but I could make it out clearly. The farmer lost quite a few calves and a cow last year to wolves.
Yes we still have the sugar gliders. Bob my normal make decided to attack me, bounced on the door ad I went to feed him and broke it. He's mean! Mo his mate is a total sweety though. The other boy and his girls are somewhat nice.
I just had a meeting with the school about DS IEP. He was formally diagnosed eith a learning impairment so he's getting the services and help he needs and from what they said he's doing much better. Little M has the same issues, really struggles to read. Her twin Big D on thr other hand loves to put subtitles on the TV and read them to everyone. His onky issue is that he doesn't have the hand strength to write so they wanted him using a program to dictate/write for him. I've just been helping him write at home with a soft lead pencil so it shows up easier. His hypermobility affects all his joints. He can bend his fingers backwards. Point his feet backwards at the ankle etc...
DD is enjoying high-school. She's really matured. Did I tell you guys she was the victim of a crime? I'm prohibited by law from giving details (more rights for the criminal than the victim as fucking usual) but she is doing ok. We've had alot of support through the whole thing.
I'm still not sleeping well so I might go crash for an hour or so.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 5:20 PM on Thursday, May 11th, 2023
Dragn, my heart breaks for you about your animals. I know wolves are protected but what is being done to protect the livestock, by officials? That is absolutely horrible to think about the fear and pain your animals went through. There has to be a better 'balance' put in place to protect people's livestock. I know that had to hurt you deeply. No wonder you've been depressed!
Good news about the kiddos - sounds like great progress.
Thinking of you.
"Because I deserve better"
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:25 PM on Thursday, May 11th, 2023
Looks like you've had a very rough time, and it looks like you've been doing a lot to handle the damage.
I don't know what schools are doing in Canada, but schools here aren't doing a great job in teaching people to read. It's very possible that the very theory on which reading programs are based are flawed. I KNOW the theory on which history teaching is based is terribly flawed. So it may be the reading program that has problems, not your kid. I know that doesn't help much....
Hang in, Dragn. Get well.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:00 PM on Thursday, May 11th, 2023
His onky issue is that he doesn't have the hand strength to write so they wanted him using a program to dictate/write for him.
Ironically the most common dictation program is called.... wait for it... Drgn. LOL
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 7:19 PM on Thursday, May 11th, 2023
Slight T/J
Sisoon - You really have that right! My daughter says it's a disgrace how public education is handling this. She's an administrator but takes time daily to work with at least one elementary class with reading sessions and encourages the students on HOW to read. She says with public schools - it's all about 'testing' and getting numbers right to 'satisfy' the state legislature and she gets angry just talking about it.
I'm a reader. I learned to read before starting school and frankly parents NEED to work with their kids before they enter the school system.
We KNOW Dragn does that with her children. She's a great, involved Mom.
Frankly, if kids would stay off the video games and spend more time with REAL books, that would help.
Dragn, it sounds if the school has hit on something to help your son read and that is great to hear.
"Because I deserve better"
jadedangel ( member #26979) posted at 8:50 PM on Friday, May 12th, 2023
Dragn,
It's good to hear from you. You have been missed.
Divorced 2007.
EXWH died 2011
Remarried 2018!
Myname ( member #23138) posted at 1:22 AM on Saturday, May 13th, 2023
Glad to hear from you Dragn. I wish things were going better for you though.
Be good to yourself.
DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 45
12-08-10: S
Divorced and moved on with my life.
PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 3:59 PM on Tuesday, May 16th, 2023
Thinking of you. Sending prayers.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 3:30 AM on Tuesday, June 13th, 2023
..OMG.. i just found this post and i'm wishing i could have 5 minutes with your spouse...
He's in urgent need of some serious attitude re-adjustment and some dental re-alignment with major nasal re-construction.
Definitely time to kick his ass to the curb, get your ducks in a row (or chickens )to get this A...hole out of your life. You deserve so much better.
smy....lf will be praying for you.
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think!Me 77 Her 73 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 9:09 AM on Tuesday, June 13th, 2023
somanyyears
Check out D&S. I have a thread there. Things are slow but progressing.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 4:59 PM on Wednesday, June 14th, 2023
smy, you're much nicer than I am. I wish he'd get infected with nuclear herpes, giant hemorrhoids and explosive diarrhea, all of which are incurable.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 5:42 PM on Wednesday, June 14th, 2023
You guys are great!
Whilr I wish wh could feel thr pain he's caused us (kids are hurting too), I wouldn't wish any harm on him. He's my children's father. They do miss him. Still angry at him too but they do miss him.
All I would wish for is for him to one day realize what an amazing life and family he had.
What's sad is that he's incapable of empathy. He doesn't feel remorse. He regrets getting caught. His tears and upset are for himself, not the years of hurt and pain he caused the kids and myself.
It's going to take time and a lot of work but like I told him back after his first affair (and online attempt at NSA sex meetup) I'll be ok without him.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 7:39 PM on Wednesday, June 14th, 2023
I wish for him the same thing I wish for anyone who so severely and intentionally hurts someone. Like what I hope for Susan Smith…
I hope he lives a very long life, and every second of every minute of every hour of every day he realizes completely what he has done.
That’s all.
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 8:34 PM on Wednesday, June 14th, 2023
I wish he would win the lottery and be forced to give every last cent to you and the little dragns.
And then I wish he would realize how lucky and privileged he is to have those awesome kids that he does not deserve and do right by them!!
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 9:03 PM on Wednesday, June 14th, 2023
I wish he would win the lottery and be forced to give every last cent to you and the little dragns.
This is funny. I won't be playing while I'm still officially married! Once the divorce is finalized wouldn't it be sweet to win lol. And he would be owed nothing!
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
Topic is Sleeping.