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Just Found Out :
Tactical Primer

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 1:15 AM on Thursday, January 7th, 2010

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 4:45 PM on Thursday, January 7th, 2010

bump for paddler

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Jen ( member #26584) posted at 12:01 AM on Saturday, January 9th, 2010

newbie bump

Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah

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showmehowtolive ( member #27098) posted at 12:32 AM on Saturday, January 9th, 2010

I'm sure you're hearing it over and over, but as a new BS, it is helpful. I will make certain to do my best to follow this wisdom!!

Me = BS
Her = WW
Married 30 yr
Dday 9/1994; 1/5/10
2 kids; D 26, S 24

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Jen ( member #26584) posted at 7:13 PM on Saturday, January 9th, 2010

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Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah

posts: 19991   ·   registered: Dec. 15th, 2009   ·   location: Where's the fucking rainbow ???
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annb ( member #22386) posted at 11:19 PM on Monday, January 11th, 2010

bump for Colleen

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 12:12 AM on Thursday, January 14th, 2010

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LostbutHopeful ( new member #27154) posted at 2:57 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2010

Thank you so much for reposting this Primer. It is how I have been trying to approach things so far on my own...it certainly fits how I think and have been trained in my work. But it's so hard not to move towards some of the things I shouldn't do...that will make it harder for my wife to change how she looks at me (since well before she entered into the affair).

BH - 41
WW - 40
D - 6, S - 4
Married 9 1/2 years.
Together almost 12.
DD#1 - 12/12/09
DD#2 - 01/08/10
Start of NC - 01/15/10
DD#3 - 02/15/10
In MC - Both desire to work on R in the hope of saving our relationship and marriage. Giving oursel

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2Gullible ( member #26354) posted at 2:58 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2010

I think the hardest thing for me here is the boundaries. I keep setting boundaries, but I have never really made him pay for crossing them.

I am working on me. I will get the courage to stand by my boundaries. One minute at a time is all I can take.

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 9:09 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2010

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Illinoisgirl ( member #25686) posted at 4:36 PM on Friday, January 15th, 2010

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Married 12 years, together 18
WH - Recovering alcoholic
Me - Recovering wife
Reconciling?
D-Day 9-27-09
3 great kids - 12, 10 & 8

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 11:47 PM on Friday, January 15th, 2010

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 12:41 AM on Sunday, January 17th, 2010

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 9:40 PM on Monday, January 18th, 2010

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 SerJR (original poster member #14993) posted at 2:40 PM on Wednesday, January 20th, 2010

Bump for painpaingoaway

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 1:55 AM on Friday, January 22nd, 2010

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 1:37 AM on Saturday, January 23rd, 2010

bump for wecanfixthis.

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 5:07 PM on Sunday, January 24th, 2010

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Jen ( member #26584) posted at 5:38 AM on Monday, January 25th, 2010

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Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah

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Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 9:44 PM on Monday, January 25th, 2010

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