7m46s (original poster new member #86651) posted at 4:27 PM on Saturday, June 27th, 2026
How do you handle social media? My WH used to be really active, especially on Instagram. On Facebook Messenger, he had a chat with a woman he’d had something going on with in the past (before our time), but that conversation was inappropriate too. He’s since deleted his Facebook account, but I agreed that he could keep his Instagram for now because he’s part of a community there through his hobby.
However, I don’t want him following random women he doesn’t even know. That really upset him. His logic was that I could just look through his phone and see he’s not actually in contact with any of them anyway.
How do you deal with this?
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 5:06 PM on Saturday, June 27th, 2026
Why is Instacrap so important to this hobby?
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:52 PM on Saturday, June 27th, 2026
Yeah, no. Being able to follow random women is more important than repairing his M? That he broke? Doesn’t sound remorseful to me…
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
7m46s (original poster new member #86651) posted at 9:00 PM on Saturday, June 27th, 2026
Why is Instacrap so important to this hobby?
There is a local community of people who are sharing that same interest and exchange. It is public and fully accessible for me. I know it matters to him so I thought I will let him keep it. He has switched his account from „public" to „private" following the A so neither can his postings be followed by the whole world anymore nor has he attracted any additional followers since then.
But there were some accounts which he follows that make me feel uncomfortable. He unfollowed all of those today after our argument. But I know he did it because I asked him to, not because he thinks it is the right thing to do. And that does not feel right either.
[This message edited by 7m46s at 9:02 PM, Saturday, June 27th]
GotTheMorbs ( member #86894) posted at 11:35 PM on Saturday, June 27th, 2026
Can't he go on youtube instead? it's not private or personal there, and you can still learn things about any hobby and get feedback on your work.
