Topic is Sleeping.
thebighurt (original poster member #34722) posted at 3:32 AM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021
I finally have a plan to get rid of the furniture xpos demanded we buy way back when. We HAD to please him. 
I have always hated it because it is ugly and uncomfortable. But it was there and I have been spending on things much more desperately needed, like fixing a cellar wall and several other expensive things to keep the M house standing after xpos ignored them. 
I have jealously read posts by others on here who made their home environs "their own", knowing it made them feel better, while I looked around and hated what I saw and had to use.
Still can't do it all, but the biggest and most hated items will disappear.... well, in a couple of months that is... given the current backlog of it on order. And, most importantly, it will improve my state of mind! And comfort.
And I did something xpos refused to ever do; I went in with an open mind, only looking for comfort and fit, and let the sales people who are designers help me pick the exact pieces and some accessories. It felt so good and I feel so positive about how it will look! I'm sure these two months will fly by!
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 3:56 AM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021
Ahhh that's wonderful! I hope you love your new things!
stubbornft ( member #49614) posted at 4:27 AM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021
Yay so excited for you!!!!
Me: BS 40 Him: WS 51 He cheated with massage parlor sex workersDday 01/19/2021
Kicked him out in 2021 - life is better on the other side. Moved on with the help of a wonderful therapist.
Throwaway999 ( member #72413) posted at 4:41 AM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021
That’s awesome….way to go!
Me - BS Him -WS DDay1 - 2011 EA with AP1DDay2/3 - found out in 2019 about EA/PA same AP1 -4 yr LTA affair ended 2017DDay4 - found out about LTA with ex-wife
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 11:15 AM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021
That's wonderful!! Great post!
A friend posted on Facebook the other day:
"I hate being single. The only thing I get to do is whatever I want all of the time."
😂😂😂 Enjoy every minute of this new beginning. And every time you walk into your home and see your own beautiful things surrounding you, I hope you feel joy.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
WarriorPrincess ( member #51806) posted at 9:40 PM on Tuesday, July 27th, 2021
Some boys take a beautiful girl
And hide her away from the rest o' the world
I wanna be the one to walk in the sun
Oh girls, they wanna have fun....
(Cyndi Lauper)
thebighurt (original poster member #34722) posted at 1:10 AM on Wednesday, July 28th, 2021
Thank you all for the encouragement. It's been a few days and I still smile at the thought of what I finally did. I can picture the pieces here even though it is still a couple of months away.
I have to agree with your friend's post, Bleepy. Would love to do the same, but, well, the kids would see it too. 
Anyway, my friends all know that is how I feel.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 2:44 AM on Saturday, July 31st, 2021
So happy you were able to do this!!!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
thishurts123 ( member #58848) posted at 6:18 AM on Friday, August 6th, 2021
Good for you! Enjoy your new furniture!
Topic is Sleeping.
