luvedmypbear (original poster member #25690) posted at 7:22 AM on Sunday, July 28th, 2024
WH is all over the place with his behavior. We are 15 years past DD1 and I have been standing for our M for a long time.
His depression and anxiety (his words) are at an all time high. He sleeps during any free time he has….usually….but today he left on a ride in the late afternoon. He returned nearly 5 hours later but didn’t speak to any of the four kids or I and went to bed (locked the master bedroom door).
I purchased contact lens solution/case and a toothbrush and am sleeping with the dog upstairs (who usually sleeps in the master).
He is incredibly unhappy.
I am worried about him and am thinking about ending our relationship so he can feel free to find his way. It’s heartbreaking to see someone so sad.
It’s awful for our kids.
luvedmypbear didn’t care what you thought. She knew she was a badass.
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 8:01 AM on Sunday, July 28th, 2024
There are medications for that. Is he in therapy? Is he seeing a dr?
You are, unfortunately, with someone whose focus is on his misery. How about asking him to focus on people who love him.
If his depression is so debilitating then he might need hospitalization.
You take care of you and your children. You can’t fix him.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
SacredSoul33 ( member #83038) posted at 6:09 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2024
You can't help someone who won't help themselves. He's self-aware enough to know that his depression and anxiety are at an all-time high, and that it's affecting the whole family negatively, but is he doing anything about it? Does he take medication?
He is incredibly unhappy.
What about you? From your other posts, it sounds like you're not reconciling and that you've rugswept for 15 years. What's keeping you there?
[This message edited by SacredSoul33 at 6:11 PM, Tuesday, July 30th]
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Your nervous system will always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven.
