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 Fablegirl (original poster member #56784) posted at 10:22 PM on Monday, September 4th, 2023

I have been doing great in life -- a new relationship, figuring out life stuff and a big raise with my career. I live in a beautiful apartment.
Then yesterday I was making a meal for myself and I suddenly experienced a flashback of making lunch for my husband and daughter. I thought, I used to live in a house with my husband and child and I made meals for them. We loved each other and laughed together.

Now I am alone and they are gone. We are no longer a family. It's as if that one memory artifact brought my optimistic perspective crashing down. I breathed through it and processed that narrative of grief. Eventually, I land in a place where I realize I don't want to go back in time and have it all back. But, wow, it's tough sometimes, to have those thoughts and be alone.

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ANewPerson ( member #83728) posted at 10:10 PM on Wednesday, September 6th, 2023

I'm in the weeks after I filed, but I do get those same thoughts. I call them crows, these unwanted thoughts that decide to come land nearby and mock me. These crows could once destroy my days, but since filing, the unwanted thoughts arise and I think, "I don't want that life back". Now that the duration of these crow visits has declined, I'm ready for them to stop visiting all together. Sounds like you're doing well and I hope we all find the acceptance to let the past stay in the past.

BH 54 Divorcing

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wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 8:42 PM on Friday, September 8th, 2023

Duplicate post. Please use this one:

FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live

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