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Trdd ( member #65989) posted at 12:53 PM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
The advice here is high quality. You need to confront this, expose it and get yourself out of infidelity ASAP. Hopefully she will come to her senses as you do that. Time is not your friend in a situation like this, immediate action is called for.
In case you are in doubt about the "spiritual awakening twin flame" stuff... you can be assured it's a BS way to rationalize her affair and her broken inner self's wants. There are several ancient, enduring spiritual traditions across the human race and none of them produce behavior like hers. Instead, she has fallen into one of the thousands of spiritual deceptions across time; many of these have a similar theme... delusion, selfishness and rationalizing it.
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Grieving ( member #79540) posted at 1:25 PM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
It’s hard for me to talk about your wife’s behavior without lapsing into sarcasm, but I agree that the 180 is in order.
This twin flame, lone wolf, bad vibe nonsense is a pile of self-serving excrement, and you do not have to take it. True "Spiritual awakenings" don’t involve treating your spouse and family like garbage. This is just a selfish, entitled excuse for doing whatever she feels like in the moment.
I would look for proof of an affair because all the giant red flags are waving. I would also inform the man’s wife about the "twin flame" crap and let her know your concerns. She deserves to know that either there’s something going on, or at very least her husband is playing music with someone who is unhealthily obsessed with him. After that, I’d draw boundaries with your wife. I doubt you can reason with someone whose head is this far up their behind, but I would tell her that what she’s doing is incompatible with marriage to you. She’s a cake eater of the most delusional kind, and you don’t have to take this.
Husband had six month affair with co-worker. Found out 7/2020. Married 20 years at that point; two teenaged kids. Reconciling.
Charity411 ( member #41033) posted at 3:35 PM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
I had a friend who did this, only it wasn't romantic. She had MS, and she started looking into ways to spiritually heal herself, with the help of a slick, expensive psychologist. He steered her toward a woman who held seminars for people looking for spiritual healing. She attended one six hours away and I Iived in a town about half way, so she stopped to see me on the way there and on the way back.
It was like two different people visited me. She told me this spiritual teacher singled her out and used her as the subject for the class. She declared that this woman was like a mirror into her soul and she was destined to be at that seminar. They were destined to find each other. Her whole life changed and for the first time she could see clearly what her purpose was, and how to heal herself. She also decided in those two days that her husband was the epitome of evil, and she could no longer be subject to his negativity, and surely he was the cause of her MS. She literally accused him of all sorts of vile things and abusive behavior. He was the total opposite. He was a marriage councilor and did counseling with troubled teens.
About four months later she drove for hours to attend another of this woman's seminars. When she approached her and said she was ready to be the example again, this teacher said she had no intention of doing that, and didn't even know who she was. My friend was stunned. In her head she had created a world where only this woman truly knew and understood her. It took years for her to face reality again and her marriage didn't survive it. And sadly, she didn't heal herself either. She died due to the MS and spent her last years living alone and miserably unhappy.
I second everyone who said you should tell his wife. It sounds crazy, but he may not even know she believes this. I wouldn't believe that's possible either if it wasn't for what I witnessed with my friend. In any case, light needs to be shined on this whole situation. It may snap her out of this or may not, but either way, keeping his wife out of the loop is not fair to her.
Charity411 ( member #41033) posted at 3:39 PM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
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HarryD ( member #72423) posted at 5:02 PM on Sunday, August 28th, 2022
So now it’s twin flame now I am having an affair. Your wife is telling you she having an a affair and you are doing nothing. You are supporting her, and paying for her to have sex with her AP Time to throw her out, and let her twin flame support her.
One thing to try to save your marriage, It’s another thing to let the cake eaten keep eating cake
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