Topic is Sleeping.
Long Gone (original poster member #32587) posted at 2:57 AM on Wednesday, October 14th, 2020
Its finally over...
She left today...
One month from 10 years...
We tried... failed... tried again... failed
She never got over what she did... never thought I could possibly forgive her... regardless of how I tried.
51... starting over... man this sucks
AngelBetrayed ( member #28579) posted at 3:52 AM on Wednesday, October 14th, 2020
Just over ten years for me. However, I ended our marriage at 6.5 years at 52. It was quite scary starting over. The first couple of years, I rediscovered myself and tried online dating. Met many nice men and a little more than two years ago I fell head over heels in love. Every day he amazes me with his kindness and genuineness. There is hope and love after divorce. You just have to believe that you are worthy and that it’s out there
BW: Me 45 ( now 53 )
BH: Him 38. ( no longer relevant )
together 10 years, married 8 on DD
Reconciled for 6 years, Divorced
1 DD: 12
Confessed: February 26, 2010
PA 1.5 years with coworker MOW
Hurtingnconfused ( member #44926) posted at 4:59 AM on Wednesday, October 14th, 2020
Also 10 years, also 51. Go out and find yourself. It is interesting to see what is out there and realize maybe we "settled" last time. I am having fun and each one I date is better than the laast. I am not the person I was last year or even last month. You will get through this and find out how aweesome you really are and how many new adventures you will be on
Bought a new couch, popped the popcorn, now we wait for the fireworks, they shall be glorious!!
NeverTwice ( member #74421) posted at 9:28 PM on Wednesday, October 14th, 2020
Hi Long Gone,
Let me interject with some encouragement. I am 60 years old and was widowed in January after a 2 year battle with cancer.
And, even though B encouraged me to find someone, I NEVER thought I would be in a serious long term relationship, much less fall in love again.
But I did meet someone - quite organically too...a pool party at a mutual friend's house. And, wow, did we ever hit it off! To the point that Sunday October 4, 2020, on a walk in the park with the dogs, she knelt asked me to marry her. And gave me a gorgeous emerald engagement ring!
And we are moving out of the US to retire. We should be coming back here (Panama) and use the beach house as home base. Then it's travel time!
So there can be quite the silver lining. And you will be a great catch!
💖
"Solid boundaries discourage trespassing." - Shirley Glass
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 5:04 PM on Saturday, October 17th, 2020
53 here. By the time we D, it will have been 29 years married, but I stopped counting after the A, so it's really 25. Fell into dating way too early like the idiot I am, was single for 6 months and tried OLD for a whole five minutes and quit. Felt super creepy to me judging people and being judged. Now, I have decided to go my own way, walk my path alone and single. I must say, taking any romantic possibility off the table has been liberating for me. I am leaning to be alone, to embrace my own company and it is quite refreshing.
I haven't totally removed the possibility of a relationship in the future, but I see it like winning the lottery. It would be nice, but not planning around it. I have a good friend, lots of people to hang out with, a sister to phone when I need a chat, yadda,yadda, yadda. Right now, its enough for me.
I guess what I'm saying is that my journey has taken me to a place where I have begun to not only realize that I don't need a partner, but that I can enjoy not having one. I was terrified of being alone on Dday. I was old and past my best before date. Who would want me? Well, it took me 4 years to answer that question. I would want me. I'm good with that.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced 20
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