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The Book Club :
Something non-religious?

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 Lodestar (original poster member #58558) posted at 9:08 PM on Sunday, June 17th, 2018

Any recommendations for books dealing with D and/or infidelity that do not constantly refer to God or some other higher power?

As an atheist/agnostic I am finding it very hard to relate to the heavily religious ones.

TIA

Me - BW (37)
Him - WH (40)
Married for 6 years, together for 13
DDs - 4 & 6 years old

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homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 5:44 AM on Monday, June 18th, 2018

This prob isn’t what you’re looking for, but a book that REALLY helped me was a book about Scott/Laci Peterson called “ A Deadly Game”. The reason this book helped me was because I finally could see how these arrogant cheaters believe their own reality. The author was a former Judge and logically breaks apart every action by Scott Peterson.

I was able to realize (logically) this person did not belong in my life. Every time he backed out of getting our boys for visitation, I was happy bc I really didn’t want them around the DECEIVER I married.

My xh brought women into our home, set me up to b friends with her, was on Craig’s List.

And he still thinks he did nothing wrong. He only cares about himself. Just like Scott Peterson.

I also liked “Why Men Love Bitches”. It’s a light hearted book that taught me what I did wrong in my marriage— I gave WAY too much, and he took WAY too much.

A book that also helped me, showed how to stand up for myself, was Love Must Be Tough. As in, tough love & to no longer let cheating husbands cross the line of respect. It is written by a Christian author, but he says Christian books and counselors do more damage by encouraging bad behavior from cheating spouses, rather than teaching the BS how to put their foot down and say, I will not tolerate this disrespect. (He references Bible verses to show where it is ok to stand up against this behavior, but I don’t recall it trying to be religious. It was more basic, common sense that we lost along the way.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 11:45 PM, June 17th (Sunday)]

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HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 3:43 AM on Sunday, July 1st, 2018

Two infidelity related books to recommend:

Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley Glass

Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy by Frank Pittman

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 9:44 PM, June 30th (Saturday)]

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leesi4321 ( member #65538) posted at 9:54 PM on Friday, August 3rd, 2018

How Can I Forgive You? By Janis Abrahms Spring. Not only is it not religious, she challenges the Christian ideas of forgiveness. Applicable to more than just infidelity also.

Me: BS (30)
Him: WH (33)
D-Day 6/24/18
2 small children
In limbo

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