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The Book Club :
the Human Magnet Syndrome

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 redfury (original poster member #58256) posted at 1:14 PM on Friday, December 22nd, 2017

Has anyone read this book? Just started it, and it is explaining so much about my life. Why I fell instantly in love with an emotional manipulator. Highly recommend it for those struggling with codependency. The author, Ross Rosenberg, also has many good videos on YouTube.

Co-d BW, 40
Divorced
D-days: 4-20-2016 and so many more
Recovery is ongoing, I'm doing better every day

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twisted ( member #8873) posted at 5:07 PM on Friday, December 22nd, 2017

Yep, read a good part of it online.

I think his concept is valid.

"Hey, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?

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MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 9:15 PM on Saturday, February 17th, 2018

I'm just about half way through - and like Redfury, I feel it explains so much.

It's made me even more determined to break away,

I understand more why STBXWH doesn't want me to divorce him, and no - it's definitely NOT because deep down he loves me so much.

It's also made me feel a bit like a walking cliche.

I can heartily recommend.

MOB

Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.

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Iwantmyglasses ( member #57205) posted at 8:11 PM on Monday, February 19th, 2018

I read it as well. It is good. However, I don’t believe it completely encompasses all characteristics and motivators in relationships.

After reading it I did wonder are there certain subjects I am narscistic about and others codependent about. I saw many interchangeable traits depending on the context/subject matter in life.

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Itiswell2015 ( member #49813) posted at 4:49 AM on Friday, March 2nd, 2018

I have listened to his stuff on youtube but yet to read his book. will give it a try

Me: BS (41)Him: (42)Married 11 years,2 Daughters
dd1 04/11 claimed ONS
dd2 11/2014.Claimed ONS
dd3 09/15: found out more than 40 women/prostitutes.
dd4: 08/ 2017: saw old sextape from 2015 made before discovery
Dd5:11/2023: his

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Candyman66 ( member #52535) posted at 5:23 PM on Saturday, March 3rd, 2018

I was reading a self help book years ago and one thing really stood out for me. That was that "If they can charm the birds out of the trees, be careful because that's what they do!"

This is probably talking about the same thing just saying it differently. I will try and find that book, thanks.

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