minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:17 AM on Tuesday, January 19th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 11:22 PM on Tuesday, January 26th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Katrina2000 ( member #51142) posted at 11:35 PM on Tuesday, January 26th, 2016
Ohanabee ( new member #51232) posted at 1:55 AM on Wednesday, January 27th, 2016
"Ohana means family. And family means nobody gets left behind...or forgotten." Unless you betray us. Then your Ohana will unleash the demon dogs of Hell.
GarlicBread ( member #51535) posted at 2:40 PM on Thursday, January 28th, 2016
I wish I'd found this place after D-Day 2. What a wealth of brilliant insight and resources.
34 year old BW with an amazing 10 year old Minion and clever 4 year old Mini-Me and a serially cheating STBXWH.
DDay 1 - 11/2014
DDay 2 - 11/2015
DDay 3 - 01/2016
DDay 4 - 11/2016
DDay 5 - 7/18 <- last one!
Every year, in November. Ha.
TwoStepsForward ( member #51300) posted at 5:46 PM on Thursday, January 28th, 2016
Me BW 47, him WH 49
M 23, 2 teens
DDays 2011, 2014, 2016, TT extreme, SA?
Wouldn't know the truth without the poly.
** Get a polygraph done!! **
Gloomyfish77 ( member #50540) posted at 5:51 PM on Thursday, January 28th, 2016
I have copied and pasted this....ready to read with my WH tonight.......he doesn't know it yet :-)
"The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too."
theDrifter ( member #48361) posted at 8:01 PM on Thursday, January 28th, 2016
This counsel & advice is not perfect by any means but it is a great start for any couple dealing with infidelity. I wish to all things holy that I could have had access to so much wisdom on my d-day. Just knowing that what I was feeling was normal would have helped, but the guidance regarding how hard reconciliation really is would have cemented my decision to divorce. Instead I swallowed my pain and just prayed that time would heal my wounds. It didn't.
ME 70 BH
Her 69 WW
We remain unhappily married.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 8:52 PM on Wednesday, February 17th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
hurdlestocross ( member #51840) posted at 6:30 PM on Thursday, February 18th, 2016
That comment towards the end about not making your marriage child centered is frustrating. One of my husband's excuses was that he felt we didn't have a relationship and that it was all about the kids.
I always tried to keep in contact with my husband during the day, wanted to cuddle with him, complimented him, spend time with him, etc. He was more distant from me than I was to him. We do have multiple small children, however. I don't enjoy their excessive dependency, but what choice do I have? Should I neglect them so he feels special?
Fireball72 ( member #20152) posted at 7:25 PM on Thursday, February 18th, 2016
Thanks. This article is very helpful.
BS (me):44 WS (him):42
Married 3.5 years, together 5.5
D-Day #1 - 2/10/16
D-Day #2 - 2/20/16
D-Day #3 - 5/27/16, different woman
Separated 6/3/16
H is asking for R. I don't know what I want.
zzx8417 ( new member #52000) posted at 5:44 AM on Tuesday, March 1st, 2016
Skynet ( member #51604) posted at 5:12 PM on Wednesday, March 2nd, 2016
Great insight. Printing later for continued reference. Hell I'll even print one for my IC. Even though he won't "need" it it may just help someone else.
"An affair is a dagger in your heart, that is never removed." - me
"Devastatingly betrayed" - confused615
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 6:57 PM on Monday, March 21st, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 2:37 PM on Sunday, April 3rd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Lovingmyselfmore ( member #46119) posted at 12:16 AM on Saturday, April 23rd, 2016
dday: september-12-2014
Me: 42 EX: 46 gay or bisexual (go figure!) together: 12 years
Dday to 3 months: suicidal 1 year after: huge depression- 1.5 years still kind of depressed-Took me 2.5 years to be kind of happy again
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 7:01 PM on Tuesday, April 26th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 3:25 AM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 10:42 PM on Thursday, May 5th, 2016
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 34 years/Together 35 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 3:04 AM on Thursday, May 12th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
