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Things that every WS needs to know

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HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 2:39 AM on Sunday, September 2nd, 2018

Bumping for someone I care about.

Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.

posts: 4956   ·   registered: Sep. 12th, 2011   ·   location: South Carolina
id 8240450
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Kitt ( member #65949) posted at 7:59 AM on Thursday, September 6th, 2018

Wow....that made me cry reading that. I would love to hear that from my WW... Every part.

Take note WS out there.

posts: 72   ·   registered: Aug. 23rd, 2018
id 8242710
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 1:45 AM on Friday, September 28th, 2018

Bumping for the general good of the world.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8255701
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 11:50 PM on Wednesday, October 10th, 2018

Bumped for Storm03

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8264291
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ThisIsNotMe2018 ( new member #66290) posted at 12:02 AM on Friday, October 12th, 2018

I want nothing more than to do these things. I'm 3 weeks out from dday, WW, and my BH doesn't want to hear anything from me, or allow me to touch him. I'm just holding on for the day that he lets me hold him again, holding on to the hope that someday he'll be interested in my remorse and in having conversations about how he feels and what I can do to help him get through it. Right now I'm the only person he won't discuss it with.

posts: 12   ·   registered: Sep. 26th, 2018   ·   location: Arizona
id 8264934
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 1:35 AM on Friday, October 12th, 2018

Oh great you've already read this!

There is still plenty you can do. Get a timeline together, with the entire truth of the affair. Everything you can remember, leave nothing out.

Start getting your toolkit together for dealing with difficult feelings in a way that is wholesome instead of destructive.

Keep working on educating yourself about the nature of infidelity and how it impacts the people involved.

Make sure you are completely transparent. Let him know when and where you're going to be and back it up with evidence. Give him all your passwords and access to your devices. Be an open book.

He might not acknowledge anything but he is very likely paying attention to what you do. What you say, that's not worth much right now. What you do is everything.

Proceed with conviction and valor.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8264995
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 2:17 AM on Friday, October 26th, 2018

Bumped for damagedwife.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8273588
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 11:00 PM on Wednesday, October 31st, 2018

Bumped for Paradox.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8276536
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 2:03 AM on Tuesday, November 6th, 2018

Bumped for HTD2015.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8280065
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 10:57 PM on Monday, November 19th, 2018

Bump.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8286769
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 11:12 PM on Friday, November 23rd, 2018

Bumped for Icandothis14.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8288591
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 4:10 AM on Tuesday, November 27th, 2018

Bumped for Hat18

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8289965
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 1:28 AM on Wednesday, November 28th, 2018

Bumped for Lessonlearned713.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8290396
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 2:25 AM on Wednesday, December 19th, 2018

Bumped for Layla1234hubby.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8301143
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 12:47 AM on Friday, December 28th, 2018

Bumped for LittleLostGirl77.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8305249
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 2:54 AM on Thursday, January 24th, 2019

Bumped for Saxifrage.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8318417
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Pippin ( member #66219) posted at 3:55 PM on Monday, February 11th, 2019

bump

Him: Shadowfax1

Reconciled for 6 years

Dona nobis pacem

posts: 891   ·   registered: Sep. 18th, 2018
id 8327648
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 11:56 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2019

Bump!

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8332200
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PurpleHaze ( member #63505) posted at 1:33 AM on Friday, March 1st, 2019

Bump

Try to stay out of the rabbit hole!

posts: 426   ·   registered: Apr. 20th, 2018   ·   location: sPOKANE
id 8337513
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EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 2:08 AM on Tuesday, March 26th, 2019

Another bump.

Me: WS (63)Him: Shards (58)D-day: June 6, 2010Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

We’re going to make it.

posts: 2567   ·   registered: Oct. 29th, 2010   ·   location: The far shore.
id 8350728
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