Continuing affair(s?) during separation
My wife had an affair about 6 months ago. She said it was over, and we've been in a weird limbo ever since. She was initially incredibly remorseful, then started turning it on me, saying she's been unhappy in our marriage for years and wants to separate. Yet when I try to move things forward she deflects, gets upset or otherwise stalls things. She also breadcrumbs, making me feel like there's still some hope there. This has been going on for 6 months now.
She's recently been away on a 2 week holiday and I found out she was there with another man (not the original AP - another guy) for at least part of the time. I don't want to reveal to her how I know as she will just turn it around on me and say I'm invading her privacy or something. But I also feel like I can't just keep quiet and let her get away with it.
It has at least given me determination to move things to Divorce now, but in the meantime it's mentally killing me knowing she's living in our house, with our daughter, pretending everything's fine, reassuring me there's nothing going on, all while she's been with another guy!
Any advice welcomed!! Thank you!
3 comments posted: Saturday, February 8th, 2025
