My WH is demanding divorce…. devastated for my kids

My husband is a closet drinker.
No one knows.
Even I question if he really is drinking or not. I feel crazy.

I found out September 4th about the other 26 year younger woman. Absolutely devastated.

We were trying to work through it.

Now he says he drinks because he never loved me and he stayed for the kids. (9 and 11)

I feel blindsided.
I don’t do anything…. And I lose my kids. Lose my house. Lose my husband.
EVERYTHING

I can’t survive this. I didn’t do anything and I lose my whole life. Why would GOD do this to me.

Please help. I can’t lose my kids 50/50. I would rather die.

8 comments posted: Tuesday, November 19th, 2024

8 weeks in… uncontrollable rage. Please help. Please.

Hello,

Really looking for something to shift or change in my house.

I found out 8 weeks ago. Husband was remorseful for 1 week and now furious and says he wants a divorce any time I bring it up.

In my gut I want to fight for my marriage and our 2 children. But right now I want to kill him every day. My therapist says I need to shelve my anger for now and mend the marriage, and THEN we will deal with the infidelity.

Please. How to handle my anger? I want to cry and scream every day. I don’t want to scare the kids.

Help.

P. S I should add that I would call him a functioning alcoholic. He denies. I’m fairly confident he drinks 200ml vodka (chugs the little bottle) every day when he comes home from work) he hides it. I just find bottles.

Anyways. She says while he is actively drinking there is not much I can do.

24 comments posted: Tuesday, November 19th, 2024

Alcoholic and affair. Help. Please help.

Has anyone dealt with a functioning alcoholic and affair at the same time?

Was there any success in saving the marriage?
Any tips?

I don’t know what to do. Feels like no progress can be made be because every day he is either in withdrawal or drunk. Or I’m not sure.

Please help if anyone has been in my shoes. I don’t want to wreck my family and ruin my kid’s lives.

4 comments posted: Sunday, November 17th, 2024