Reconciled since 2004 (SI member back then)

20 years later, she's trying to contact him on Facebook?!

---20 years of healing and life in general, now this dumba$$ tries to 'friend' former WS on his Facebook!---

Other half (long ago WS) was driving home from work last night and had me check his FB messages to see if a potential tenant for a rental we own had messaged him (he does not use apps) about showing the house.

FB page loads and the friend request box appears and in it is 'she who must not be named' in it.

I thought, "that name sounds familiar"

Then, I was like Edith Bunker: "Ohhhh......OHHHH!!"

20 years ago. 2 decades. Life in, life out, Pets born, lived, died. Hobbies and projects developed and completed. Friends made and exhausted. Family members sick, dementia, dead. Pandemic. Building. Survival. A whole, entire story arc.

It all flashes through my head like it doesn't matter. This stupid floozy.

He had always let me have full access to his email and FB after the A. I hadn't been in the habit of looking or caring in so, so long. He's 56 and I am 61, fer cryin out loud.

Many years ago, I did find her on FB and blocked her on his, just in case she really was that much of a flailing ninny.

Then a few years ago, I removed the block on her because I didn't like that her exact name (incl married last name) was in any list anyplace.

And what? Is she that dumb that she would try to FB friend someone whose life she helped rip apart so many years prior? When she was 25 (and he was 35) and lived hours away up in the Michigan boonies (for years I even refused to go up north because it reminded me of their skanky adventures).

Shoulda known better because- viola! She really is that stupid, apparently. WTF? does she just 'friend' every human being she ever crossed paths (or opened legs) with?!

I blocked her again, this time

for good- and tightened his privacy settings (no more public posts; friends only).

Of course, I told other half when he got home because I looked upset and he asked what was wrong.

He says he told her NC way back then and he was very sad about it. My dogs were upset that I was upset!

I told him I cannot imagine someone from 2 -decades- ago trying to shoehorn themselves back into someone's life, especially after being an AP for just a few months. As Cher in "Clueless" would say: "As IF!"

Here and there, through the years, I was able to puzzle piece together that she moved to Maryland, got married and had a life with her kids from her first marriage!

Oh, man...

I have better things to do than think about this worthless bimbo. Just wanted to vent and didn't want to put this on a friend's plate.

I was a good member here for 7 years from my DD to a point when I felt comfortable moving on.

I wonder who else this has happened to because obviously, it -does- happen!

On a more personally satisfying note, I was right about her, that she is as stupid as I thought.

3 comments posted: Friday, January 12th, 2024