Emotional affair with someone from an anonymous chat?

Emotional affair with someone met online..

On July 13th I found out my WH had been cheating on me and drinking excessively for a few months, he confessed the infidelity to me while I was 38 weeks pregnant, he had been sexting and talking regularly with another woman, I asked him to cease conversations with the other until we figured things out between us to what he agreed. I wanted to work things out to what he told me he did not know how he felt about me, he didn’t know if it was worth restoring the relationship and that he was emotionally evolve with the other. He treated me poorly, continued lying to me and drinking excessively until he finally left the house on July 26 and limited contact with me. I gave birth to our child on July 30th. The week after our daughter was born I attempted to resume conversations with him to work things out, however in our last conversation he turned aggressive, yelling at me, mocking me and with implicit threats of kicking me out of our home on grounds that he never added my name on the title of the property and that the house did not belong to me in any sense. I did not pursue further conversations after this, being scared of his reaction and being kicked out of the house.

All this situation caused me severe emotional distress for which I had to be seen by Dr. on august 13th and was prescribed with antidepressants.

By the end of August he began looking more like himself, he began treating me better and trying to spend time with me; hugging me and talking about day to day stuff which I was completely confused by, I did not understand why he pretended like nothing happened. I kept being short and maintaining my distance.

On September 2nd he returned to the house and turned aggressive, he was throwing stuff and harming himself by punching furniture and himself in the face. The reason of his frustration was the fact that I was not corresponding his love as he wanted and he was upset that I sought emotional support from our friends and now all his friends were judging him. He told me he wasn’t talking with anyone anymore and that he loved me.

On September 3rd my daughter and I travel to Mexico where I’m originally from he told me to take this time to think if I can give him another chance.

When I came back I found out again that he remain talking with the other woman, and when I confronted him about that he told me he never ceases conversations and that his feelings for her have grown even more and that he loved her, even when he said he wanted to work things out with me and still love me.. but that she was the only one he trusted and truly understood him. That he would be willing to cease communication with her if I gave him another chance. To what I said no, I could not believe I was betrayed and lied to once again. He also confessed that going on anonymous chats have always been a constant in his life.. this was an escape for him and he did it even before we met. I was doing better emotionally but this last hit even harder and I’m even more depressed than I was before, I cannot eat, sleep or function normally. I’m trapped in the fact that he is in love with the other and says that he loves her even after not having met her in person once.. when we’ve been together for 10 years and were so in love. I’m trying to understand what happened? What is their relationship like? What do they talk about? How much? He keeps saying they don’t have plans to meet in person or to be together but I don’t believe anything he says anymore and it doesn’t matter because he is gonna do what he is gonna do.. can he really be so emotionally attached to her and so in love that he was willing to leave me? Could he be having an emotional crisis? Why did he act like that? Is it just that he is in love? I am looking for so many answers but when I try to talk to him he tells me he doesn’t know and he is confused too. Can someone relate to this situation?

7 comments posted: Wednesday, October 18th, 2023