What are they fantasizing about while self-pleasuring?
What are the chances that my WW thinks of AP when she pleasures herself? Long story short my WW and I have a collection of adult toys we use for foreplay that are kept in a draw by the bed I leave early for work before she gets up in the morning and about 6 months ago, I started wondering if she used them while I am not around so I positioned them so that if they were moved and not put back exactly the same I would know well it turns out that she does use them not a lot probably 3 times a month I don't want to embarrass her by telling her I know and suffer the anger from her by my sneaking around and even if I could ask her she would never admit that she has him in mind. I do not have a problem with her pleasuring herself when I am not around, and I confess I masturbate like everyone else but would be upset if she was masturbating to the images of AP. So, a simple question to WS if you do this on your own do you think of AP when doing it? and BS do you think WW’s do?
Side note WW affair was over 20 years ago.
14 comments posted: Tuesday, October 17th, 2023
4 Questions about an old betrayal.
I posted this in the betrayed Menz thread but was advised to place it here as that tread is not very active, so this is it with a few small changes. PS English is not my first language, so I hope this is not too hard to read.
Hi all you BH’s I think this is the right place to post this. If it should be in general let me know and I will move it. I have only just recently found SI. I came across it because it is coming up to our 40th wedding anniversary and that she is so happy about that which really triggered me more than normal. Her A was about 22 years ago could actually be more like 25+ so much of this I have trouble remembering and lasted about 3 or 4 months before the player had finished using her and moved on to his next conquest.
I have a few questions that have more than likely been asked before. I just don't have time to go through the whole site looking for answers and advice for them. These are the things that still burn in my head when triggered even after all this time.
1. How do you ever get past the thought of how easily a WW fell for a player that was single more attractive (the type that most girls would go for) than you and be used so easily. Do you ever think that no matter how loving and committed they seem since PA they may fall for it again? In my wife's case she fell so easily to his advances with him. She's not ugly but definitely no beauty queen after 3 kids and I am not Brad Pitt. He needed help with some music exams, so he hit on my wife. She is a very experienced music teacher, and they were working together on an amateur Christmas musical at the time. (Wife in her early 30" s and a mother we had 3 boys at the time and him mid 20" s maybe a bit more.
2. This is the one that still gets me the most. When you exchange your wedding vows, romantic intimacy, sex, is something that is an exclusive part of a marriage between the two of you it's like it's sacred while you are married. When I get triggered the thought of another man being inside my wife makes that special place of hers seem cheap and dirty and can never be the same as before. Do you think the same as me now? If you did and have gotten past it, how? It just seems even after all this time the sexual part of our relationship can never be the same even if the sex is good after.
3.I know a lot of terrible things happen during the A. Why can't I remember details now it's like it's completely gone from my memory?
4. If you, like me, let your WW back, how do you get past the shame and embarrassment that friends and family know everything about the PA/cheating, and you let her back so easily like you're a weak man that this would and could only be a deal breaker to a man with any self-respect?
21 comments posted: Saturday, July 1st, 2023