Co-parenting agreement

I have a question for any of you that co-parent with WS. We have 50/50 custody. I feel like our parenting agreement is very simple. It’s strictly just about the holiday split. At the time I did not know what I could add to the agreement. Do any of you have any rules on travel? Does your co-parent message you to let you know they arrived safely? My coparent does not reach out like tells me he will causing me so much anxiety. Then when I have to contact him he tells me he "forgot". I believe he enjoys causing me distress. He is now punishing me through my child. Is that something I could add to a parenting agreement? Communication before/after travel. And would I need to go to court again? Thank you In advance.

8 comments posted: Saturday, October 2nd, 2021

How to deal with WH & OW being together

I have a questions for any of you that divorced your wayward spouse. I left two years ago. I still loved him at the time but I was extremely unhappy. And now WH and the OW are together. I knew that him being with the OW was a possibility if I left but after 5 years of lies, gaslighting and emotional abuse I could not take anymore. He manipulated me to stay for so long yet he did not let the OW go all those years. I just found out a few months ago that they were seeing each other...they made it official. Now they are moving in together and having a baby. I was married to this man for 15 years. We only had one child due to multiple miscarriages. I am so angry and hurt. I wanted more children. I wanted so many things that he took away from me. Things I can never have back. I cant help but be obsessed with this situation. I want them to hurt. I have never hated two people more than I do them. I feel like there's not justice. How can two awful people be happy....while people than never harm anyone get to suffer. I'm also worried for my son. Worried that things will change for him. He has suffered so much instability since all of this started 7 years ago I just don't want him to suffer. I don't know what to do with these emotions. How do I overcome this. They are living their life...happy to start their family while I have to deal with all of this. Sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind. I keep hearing that these people usually pay for what they do or that it does not work out....but so far they have made it through everything. This woman did terrible things to ruin our marriage and she gets what she wants at the end.....this is so unfair it hurts.

6 comments posted: Friday, July 30th, 2021

OW spending time w/ my kid

I am not sure I am posting In the right Forum so I apologize. My divorce is final I have no regrets about that. My Spouse cheated and emotionally abused me for years and it become a very toxic relationship that needed to end. He lied and manipulated me for years. He recently made the relationship with the affair partner public. Anyway I should not of been surprised but I was. That relationship survived even when statistically it shouldn't of because of everything that happened. I stayed longer than I should of because I did not want that woman around my child. And it ended up happening anyway. I am angry at myself. I know I have no control. My question is how do any of you that have gone through this deal with the negative emotions that come with this person being around your child. If they cared about that child they would not of helped break up the home. I don't trust her. I hate her. She was an awful person to me as well. How is it fair that these two selfish people caused so much harm and now they get to be happy and they get to play family with my child every other weekend. It hurts. I am glad I don't have to deal with that cheater but now I have to deal with this. I just feel like I have to keep dealing with these awful feelings and I am tired of it.

16 comments posted: Tuesday, July 13th, 2021