Newest Member: Hurtandbeyond


WW caught in EA May 17 DDay Mar 19 it was full PA Struggling for R, but still trying.

Dead bedroom 3 yrs post dday

We have made it to over 3 years post DDay, and although we are still together, technically, we have devolved into almost roommates now. I know there have been alot of hurtful things we have both said to each other over the last few years, especially during arguments when her affair was brought up, but it now seems like there is very little connection anymore.

It took so much from me trying to battle with her to go NC, plus my health issues, some of which are very, very stress related, have almost destroyed my spirit in that now there is no fight left in me, I'm all used up. As for her the fight has gone from fighting me to keep her "friend" to now fighting me on almost anything I do at least once each day, from the simplest of things to big issues. And then she wonders why I don't feel particularly amorous last thing at night or any other time tbh. Though she will hardly ever instigate anything in the bedroom either. She will through out excuses like not feeling great, tiredness, or even say her sex drive is gone (quoting menopause).

I suppose the question I am asking is that is there any chance of recovery from this position, has anyone recovered from an almost stalemate of indifference by both the WS and the BS? I don't think either one of us wants to divorce but I don't think the situation as it stands can continue either.

20 comments posted: Wednesday, June 29th, 2022

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