Me: BH (57)Her: STBXWW (52)DDays - 9/10/01, 10/15/19, 7/3/21, 2/11/22.I'm dumb, but I do learn eventually. D started 11/11/22

And so it begins...

It was nine months ago today I found out what she was up to. If you're interested, here's my thread from that day.
https://survivinginfidelity.com/forums/?tid=655806&HL=71871
It wasn't her first time cheating on me, but it is now her last.

After nine months of limbo, basically living like roommates in the house and only communicating when we had to handle kid logistics or business of the house matters, we have both lawyered up. She beat me doing this by a few days, so her guy got the paperwork in first, and it will go down in the books as her call. That's ok by me. She's reading out of the cheaters playbook and placing all the blame on me, so when nothing changes for her after its done she'll finally have to realize that she may actually have been the one who fucked up.

The time has been good to me as well, I am in a very good headspace. I'm not feeling any grief over this, I've done that already. If anything, I'm eager for the process to play out so I can have my new beginning.

I never would have thought I would have gotten to this place all those months ago. For anyone else who's in the process, if I can get there, you can too. Take care of yourself. Get help, rely on others. Be good to yourself, and realize you are MIGHTY!!

30 comments posted: Saturday, November 12th, 2022

DDay was 6 days ago. Should I wait until emotions etc settle down to pull the D trigger?

Last Friday was my 3rd (4th?) DDay, and D is, at this point, the only realistic option.

My question is this though - should I wait until the emotions and such settle down a bit before jumping into divorce proceedings?

I mean, I know it's the only real answer here, but I'm wondering if I should hold off until my emotions are more in check and I can think/process things a bit better. We aren't having problems living together other than the obvious emotions showing, so there's no real need to rush other than to get it over with.

34 comments posted: Friday, February 18th, 2022