Me-BH49 EXWW46 2 DD19 &21 Divorce final 2020 DDay 2/28/14 Words to cause concern-I met the nicest man on the cruise.

People with boundary issues

I recently went in a couple of dates with a girl I went to high school with. We were never romantically linked in the past so no baggage carried over. She is a VP at a bank, been divorced 18 months, very beautiful and seemed to have her house in order. She came over to my place for dinner Saturday and after chatting for a while she said she wanted to discuss something with me. She said she liked me very much and wanted to see more of me and possibly pursue a relationship but she had an unexpected complication pop up. So she proceeded to tell me that she and a married male coworker had become close friends and after she told him about going out on dates w me he had confessed his love to her. She said she had feelings for him also but she knew nothing could ever happen between them. She proceeded to tell me his sob story about a wife with mental illness and how he would be broke if he divorced her, blah blah blah.

I told her that any chance we might have had for a relationship was gone. I don’t pair up with women who have horrible boundaries and that I wanted a nice and simple life not some messy drama filled soap opera. I also told her that she was involved in something that she needed to remove herself from ASAP. She had given up the right to have any type of normal relationship by allowing a married man to dictate what she did outside of their friendship. I told her that she was only hearing what he wanted her to hear and that there was another side of the story she was completely ignorant to. I told her exactly how this would play out. She would eventually sleep with him and that everything she thought she knew about this guy would be a farce. I did tell her that I appreciated her honesty and that we no longer needed to see each other on a romantic level.

At least she gave me the chance to dodge that bullet.

20 comments posted: Wednesday, April 7th, 2021