Best academic articles for Hx ReWrite?

Hope everyone is finding some peace today.

Could anyone suggest the best academic/research articles describing the rewrite of marital history by a WW?

Or a book that is the gold standard as a reference?

Need it for court.
Thanks.

9 comments posted: Tuesday, May 28th, 2024

Stone-walling the truth. Am I nuts for wanting to know the whole story?

Just found out my Wife was having an affair for what She said was around 3 months. Our DDay was supposed to be our 20th Wedding Anniversary. I am leaning towards reconciliation right now, but I still haven't received the whole story.

I asked for the timeline of when it started.
I asked for the when, where, time of day, and day of the week.

Still no answers. She says they would hurt me, and that I wouldn't be able to handle it. Well, I have figured out how strong I am the last few weeks! Am I crazy for wanting to know those details? I want to know how long the lying has been going on. Looking through old texts between us, and looking at photos through her accounts - I believe it started earlier.

I believe if I finally get the truth I will be able to advance in my self-healing. I'm sick of falling down the "rabbit hole" everyday looking for information.

10 comments posted: Wednesday, May 1st, 2024

Cheating and Guts

Dear valuable members of this community,

I'm posting here because I don't know where to post this. I don't know if that counts as cheating but my guts say so.

So I'm in a relationship with my BF for 2 years now. Most of the time BF tries to be there for me and supports me. We never had a fight since we started this relationship. It is always steady and BF is my safe place to be when life is hard.

At the start of our relationship BF was seeing his ex still, but because of a reason: A DOG. They bought a dog together before things going bad for them and now BF still takes care of the dog once every week and sometimes more. His ex is living alone and doesn't have a BF. For these 2 years, I always saw this as 'okay-ish' since BF confirmed that he doesn't have any feelings left for her and he is only doing this because he feels guilty that they got a dog back in time. BF told me that he wants to keep taking care of the dog until his ex find someone that can take care of the dog & his ex.

We live seperately but we stay in each others places couple of days in a week. Recently, because of my issues at work, I started to seeing a therapist. I was talking about this issue with IC and IC suddenly told me that this actually bothers me alot. Because when I come to think about it, BF never let me be in his place when he needs to take care of the dog -every saturday. And if we are gonna see each other on saturday, its either going out for a dinner or BF coming to my place after his ex takes the dog from his place.

After talking with therapist, my therapist told me that BF might be still have feelings for his ex and he just don't want to even admit it to himself and thats why he acts the way that he takes care of the dog.

After talking about this, I realized some of BF behaviors are also weird since the beginning of our relationship. For instance, BF asked me if I would want to spice up the relationship with threesome when we are just at the beginning of the relationship - like 3-4 months -I think? And I said no, I would like to commit to one person. BF also talks about his ex-partners alot, almost every day BF tells me something about his exes. And these bother me alot, since we don't live together and we work in different places, I don't fully know what BF is busy with in a day and I started to feel like BF might be cheating on me with his ex because they text every day which I find very annoying. When I say this to BF, he says we are talking about our dog. Really? Every day you talk about a dog... That is odd.

What shall I do? A guidance is very appreciated.
Thanks.

7 comments posted: Tuesday, February 27th, 2024

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17 comments posted: Saturday, October 2nd, 2021

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11 comments posted: Wednesday, August 18th, 2021