Me BS (45)
Him WH (48)
2 Children - 18 & 10 years
DDay #1 Sept 2011
DDay #2 Nov 2011
In R I feel angry but not homicidal; this may be progress.
So far out and still sometimes angry
I'm 11 years out from my husband cheating on me.
We were doing ok for a long time but suddenly, I'm feeling angry all over again. I saw a therapist last summer because of it and she said it's very typical for women in their 40s to go through a phase of wanting to prioritize themselves which I'm 100% feeling. At the start of the pandemic, I decided to have some orthodontic work done and last December I had bariatric surgery and lost over 120 lbs. I feel so much better physically but mentally I'm just angry all the time.
I'm angry that I spent YEARS taking care of him and the kids and put myself aside. Now that I'm feeling like I'm worthy of taking care of myself, I'm angry and resentful all over again. It's overwhelming sometimes.
He has been 100% faithful and remorseful in the last 11 years. I don't want to hurt him anymore, he beats himself up enough. But I don't know what to do with this anger anymore. I feel guilty for being angry again. I'm lost.
6 comments posted: Tuesday, October 25th, 2022
