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63 comments posted: Sunday, March 31st, 2024
Betrayed Menz Thread - Part 35
Part #35
80 comments posted: Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
For Those Who Found Out Years Later - part 2
A thread for those of you who found out about affairs years after they were over.
197 comments posted: Sunday, April 2nd, 2023
Betrayed Womenz Thread Part 5
Opening new thread.
41 comments posted: Tuesday, January 31st, 2023
BS Questions for WS - Part 15
Last question asked by heartbrokeninaz on part 14:
Why didnt the WS just let us go? Just one simple question. Why make the BS find out and keep telling them they are crazy? Seems so much easier to just say you want out.
799 comments posted: Monday, November 21st, 2022
Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts-22
For BS's who have been or are in a relationship with a Sex Addict
73 comments posted: Friday, September 16th, 2022
BS Questions for WS - Part 15
This thread is for Betrayed Spouses to ask questions of Wayward Spouses. Betrayed Spouses are not to answer on this thread.
13 comments posted: Thursday, August 11th, 2022
Coparents I need some help. (moved to Divorce/Separation)
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0 comment posted: Sunday, February 21st, 2021
Happy Birthday Ariopolis!!!
2 comments posted: Sunday, February 14th, 2021
Happy Birthday Lowlow!!!!
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3 comments posted: Sunday, February 14th, 2021
Struggling (moved to Just Found Out)
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0 comment posted: Friday, November 27th, 2020
Madhatters Only - Part 2
This thread is restricted to MadHatter's
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41 comments posted: Thursday, October 22nd, 2020
Former Waywards not in Reconciliation
A thread for former Waywards who are working on themselves after divorce or breakup. Betrayed spouses are not allowed to post. The On Topic guideline covers this topic.
76 comments posted: Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
Betrayed Womenz Thread - Part 4
A place for the betrayed women to discuss issues specific to betrayed wives. We ask that women only post on this thread.
1027 comments posted: Sunday, September 13th, 2020
2020 Christmas Card Exchange (moved to Fun & Games)
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0 comment posted: Thursday, September 10th, 2020
Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts - 21
For BS's who have been or are in a relationship with a Sex Addict
1095 comments posted: Monday, September 7th, 2020
BS Questions for WS - Part 14
This thread is for Betrayed Spouses to ask questions of Wayward Spouses. Betrayed Spouses are not to answer on this thread.
1000 comments posted: Saturday, August 15th, 2020
and just like that... (moved to Divorce/Separation)
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0 comment posted: Tuesday, July 14th, 2020
Old Guy Visits after Years Divorced 18 yrs (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Wednesday, February 19th, 2020
An Anonymous Survey on Marital Infidelity (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Wednesday, January 22nd, 2020
Betrayed Womenz Thread - Part 3
A place for the betrayed women to discuss issues specific to betrayed wives. We ask that women only post on this thread.
999 comments posted: Friday, November 15th, 2019
Betrayed Menz Thread - Part 34
Part #34
999 comments posted: Monday, October 28th, 2019
2019 Christmas Card Exchange (moved to Fun & Games)
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0 comment posted: Friday, October 11th, 2019
Infidelemojis (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Monday, September 30th, 2019
Betrayed Womenz Thread
A place for the betrayed women to discuss issues specific to betrayed wives. We ask that women only post on this thread.
999 comments posted: Tuesday, September 17th, 2019
SI Staff
Testing new topic.
2 comments posted: Thursday, September 5th, 2019
Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts - 20
For BS's who have been or are in a relationship with a Sex Addict
999 comments posted: Wednesday, July 31st, 2019
Long Term Affairs Part 39
738 comments posted: Monday, February 18th, 2019
Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts - 19
For BS's who have been or are in a relationship with a Sex Addict.
999 comments posted: Saturday, January 26th, 2019
BS Questions for WS's - Part 13
This thread is for Betrayed Spouses to ask questions of Wayward Spouses. Betrayed Spouses are not to answer on this thread.
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999 comments posted: Thursday, November 15th, 2018
12th Annual Christmas Card Exchange (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Thursday, October 11th, 2018
Betrayed Menz Thread-Part 33
Here you go gents!
999 comments posted: Saturday, August 4th, 2018
Betrayed Womenz Thread
A place for the betrayed women to discuss issues specific to betrayed wives. We ask that women only post on this thread.
999 comments posted: Thursday, July 26th, 2018
Emotionless Infidelity Part 4
Emotionless Infidelity, for those that have personally dealing with a WS who is into Prostitutes and/or Anonymous Encounters.
606 comments posted: Wednesday, July 11th, 2018
Spouses/Partners of Sex Addicts - 18
For BS's who have been or are in a relationship with a Sex Addict.
999 comments posted: Sunday, April 1st, 2018
Splitting from a narcissist? (moved to General)
This topic has been moved to General
0 comment posted: Sunday, March 25th, 2018
Test
Test
6 comments posted: Monday, February 26th, 2018
When A WS Leaves For Their OP Part 2
Support for BS's that have been left for the OP
858 comments posted: Monday, February 5th, 2018
Spouses/Partners with Personality Disorders
This thread can include both BPD and NPD.
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268 comments posted: Sunday, December 24th, 2017
Training for nurse (moved to Off Topic)
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0 comment posted: Monday, November 6th, 2017
Dealing with OC
For BS's that are dealing with children that came from the affair
290 comments posted: Sunday, October 15th, 2017
Long Term Affairs Part 38
Here you go
999 comments posted: Friday, September 1st, 2017
Back the blue - Leo's, Medical - Everyone !!!!!!!! (moved to Off Topic)
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0 comment posted: Wednesday, August 16th, 2017
Codependency & Loving Too Much
For those with direct experience
221 comments posted: Tuesday, January 24th, 2017
Funny Cheater Xmas Story (from reddit /r/drama) (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Friday, December 23rd, 2016
11th Annual Christmas Card Exchange
In case you missed the Christmas Card Exchange thread, you can find it up in the General forum. Here's the link -
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=593202
The deadline to sign up is October 31st. More details and an FAQ in the thread, where you will also find the link to the sign up form.
5 comments posted: Monday, October 24th, 2016
Spouses with Same Gender APs
For those that have personally dealt with this particular issue.
535 comments posted: Thursday, June 9th, 2016
How do you read SI? (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Wednesday, March 9th, 2016
I've developed and inappropriate relationship; 2x4s needed (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Friday, February 19th, 2016
Sexual Abuse Survivors/Spouses - Part 3
For those that are personally dealing with this situation.
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663 comments posted: Thursday, February 18th, 2016
Postive New Beginning Stories!
Please share your new beginning stories on this thread...this thread is to help encourage those that are starting their lives over and finding happiness all over again
55 comments posted: Sunday, January 17th, 2016
stupid picture friday (moved to Just Found Out)
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0 comment posted: Friday, December 25th, 2015
#1 Hell Hath NO Fury Award (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Monday, December 14th, 2015
Support Through Prayer ...Part 3
896 comments posted: Tuesday, November 3rd, 2015
Help contacting a BW (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Saturday, October 31st, 2015
Ashley Madison: Life is Short, Fill in the Blank (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Sunday, August 30th, 2015
The S.I. Official Cookbook Thread
We are pleased to announce the official Surviving Infidelity Cookbook!!!
Everyone is encouraged to contribute their favorite recipes! We do however ask that you also include the number of servings, prep time, cook time, etc., and please be specific, if you post add one cup of onions, let us know if that is chopped, minced or whole. We ask that you please included any nutritional facts, if you have them.
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21 comments posted: Sunday, August 30th, 2015
Ashley Madison (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Friday, August 28th, 2015
car insurance quotes (moved to Off Topic)
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0 comment posted: Thursday, April 23rd, 2015
Joking in our Reconciliation (moved to Reconciliation)
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0 comment posted: Saturday, March 21st, 2015
1,000 Post Party for crazynot!!
Congrats, crazynot! Thank you for being here with us and sharing the journey! 
6 comments posted: Friday, February 6th, 2015
1,000 Post Party for Devotedman!!!!
Congratulations!! Thank you for being a part of this community and sharing with us!
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1,000 Post Party for Dr. Jekyll!!!
Congratulations, man! Thank you for all you have shared with us. You've shown a lot of growth and compassion and we appreciate it!
8 comments posted: Wednesday, February 4th, 2015
1,000 Post Party for mhca!!!!!!!!!!!
Congrats!!! Thank you for all of the support you give.
8 comments posted: Tuesday, February 3rd, 2015
40,000 Post Party for authenticnow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Congrats!!! Thank you for all of the support, time, and caring you have given!
28 comments posted: Saturday, January 31st, 2015
1,000 Post Party for lilies21!!
Yay for lilies21! Thank you for being a part of our community!
11 comments posted: Friday, January 30th, 2015
Pigs (moved to Divorce/Separation)
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0 comment posted: Thursday, January 29th, 2015
200,000 Post Party for Deeply Scared!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Congrats!!!! Thank you for being our light through good times and bad.
53 comments posted: Monday, January 26th, 2015
1,000 Post Party for Morhurt!!!!!!!!!
Congrats!!! Thank you for all of the support you give!
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1,000 Post Party for Pollybuddy!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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8 comments posted: Sunday, January 25th, 2015
How to print messages from the phone (moved to Off Topic)
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0 comment posted: Sunday, December 21st, 2014
N P D Thread - Part 14
706 comments posted: Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014
Now Playing (moved to Just Found Out)
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0 comment posted: Friday, May 23rd, 2014
SI quote thread- Vol 14
Yes, I know. (13 was intentionally skipped)
352 comments posted: Wednesday, April 30th, 2014
Double Betrayal
483 comments posted: Wednesday, November 6th, 2013
Madhatters Only Thread
This thread is restricted to MadHatter's Only.
999 comments posted: Thursday, September 26th, 2013
Positive Reconciliation Stories
This thread is for is ONLY FOR POSITIVE stories.
No venting.
No OP talk.
Strictly reconciling progress between couples. Share your stories as you heal.
589 comments posted: Monday, January 9th, 2012
Support for BS in Limbo
A topic for BS only that are still undecided on what path they will take.
640 comments posted: Wednesday, July 6th, 2011
For Those Who Found Out Years Later
A thread for those of you who found out about affairs years after they were over.
999 comments posted: Sunday, April 11th, 2010
Test Thread (moved to General)
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0 comment posted: Thursday, June 11th, 2009
Test Thread (moved to Off Topic)
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Test Thread (moved to Off Topic)
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Test Thread (moved to Fun & Games)
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Test Thread (moved to Off Topic)
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0 comment posted: Thursday, June 11th, 2009
Emotional Affairs
A thread for those seeking support for affairs that were strictly emotional.
960 comments posted: Friday, April 4th, 2008
"I Can Relate" Forum
Each new thread must be submitted to and recieve Moderator approval before being started.
No new threads or groups will be posted in here by anyone other than a Moderator. This will protect against duplication and ensure that equal support is given to each situation.
95 comments posted: Monday, April 2nd, 2007
Newbies...Important Information - Please Read
1. First of all, know that you are not alone. This happens to people every minute of every day.
Realize that this is something that you CAN and WILL survive.
2. You may feel that you need to make a final decision immediately. Your feelings will likely fluctuate - many describe these changing and conflicting feelings as the "rollercoaster" Take time for yourself, your emotions may be too raw for the first 6 months to make an informed and healthy decision on which direction you want to truly go. A hasty decision either way may make you feel trapped if you haven't given yourself some time to heal and tend to what you need for your own emotional health.
3. Be certain you want people outside of your marriage/relationship to know of the Affair. You may regret telling people later down the road.
4. Seek out a Counselor that specializes in infidelity and family crisis. It helps to have a mediator that can guide you both in the direction of healing.
5. Don't take advice from people that have never experienced infidelity or ones that immediately say "cut and run...". They are not in your shoes and do not know your history and/or investment with your relationship.
6. Regardless of the outcome, there are thousands of members here who can testify to having a wonderful life after being hit with infidelity.
7. Take necessary steps to ensure that the A is over. Having your WS write a No Contact letter to the OP is a very healthy first step towards healing and recovery.
8. Many BS's are unsure of what direction to go, keep in mind, you're not in a race, there is no time limit on when it feels right for you to take another step forward.
9. Consult an attorney to know what your rights are should divorce be the path you decide to walk down.
10. See your Doctor if you're feeling overwhelmed, depressed and can't seem to concentrate.
11. Make sure to take care of yourself. It's very hard to eat and sleep when the pain is so deep, but you must remember that your health is very important.
12. Do not take any responsibility for the Affair. Your spouse/partner made a conscious choice to cheat, you did not push them into the arms of another person.
13. Odds are your spouse/partner had unprotected sex. Please make sure you're both tested for STD's before engaging in sex with eachother. Please do not be embarrassed to talk to your Doctor about possible STD's, there's not much that they haven't already heard.
14. Please take the time to read in the Healing Library (upper left corner, yellow box), there are numerous articles and resources that will help you cope with your feelings.
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34 comments posted: Tuesday, August 15th, 2006
Religious & Political threads
SI is a support board from the pain of infidelity. We have very few rules here. We have asked in the past to please refrain posting about religious or political beliefs.
PLEASE NOTE - The No Politics guideline has been revised and the banner at the top of the forums has changed to reflect the change -
IMPORTANT NOTICE: SI Staff has decided that the recent no politics guideline changes will be permanent. There is to be NO mention of political names, and absolutely no political topic content in any context. Any violation of this guideline will result in the loss of posting privileges. Thank you.
This means members are no longer allowed to post about politicians even if the post is infidelity related.
If you have questions, please contact the staff to discuss.
Thank you for your cooperation.
-SI Staff
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143 comments posted: Sunday, February 5th, 2006
